mexican man
Hmm, I had quite the opposite.
I met a wonderful Mexican man, on a vacation to Los Cabos last April. He worked as a tour guide, and we hit it off immediately. While he maintained a professionalism throughout the day it was evident that there was a mutual attraction.
I bumped into him a few days later when he was picking up another tour at the hotel and he greeted me with a chaste kiss on the cheek. We chatted for a while and I gave him my email and home tel# number and told him if he was ever visiting Canada to let me know.
He also came to see me off on my last day, but I didn't really expect to hear from him. But 7 weeks later he called me, (it was actually my birthday, which he had no idea) and we have had almost daily text and telephone communication since. He was out of work for about 8 months due to the hit in the economy and tourist industry because of the swine flu scare. But not once did he ask me for anything. Simply to communicate, as his days were now longer and all he desperately wanted to do was to get back to work. He told me that talking to me was one of the few hilights of his day.
Over the course of 6 months I got deeply involved with him. I allowed myself to think that he wanted me as much as I wanted him and based on that I booked a trip back to Los Cabos to see him in November. He didn't try to stop me, however, he would have preffered that I hadn't gone when he was unable to treat me to 'dinner, or outings' etc. due to his financial situation. He did not allow me to pay for anything, even though I went down with enough money to do lots of things. He would come to meet me everyday. He would greet me with a kiss on the cheek, he would leave me with a hug and a kiss on the cheek. We talked, we laughed and we got to know each other a little better. He not once tried anything on with me. My attraction for him grew. even though he is not my usual type. I'm taller by about 4 inches and older by about 4 years.
I'm used to men that wear 5,000 suits and 500 dollar ties when they work, he goes to work in shorts, sandals and baseball cap. But I fell hard for his manner, and his incredible dimples! I could not take my eyes off him.
I knew he liked me, and thought I was pretty, as he'd told me pretty early on in our communication after I'd sent him some pictures and I honestly thought he'd be all over me when I returned to visit him. But he was very very disciplined.
I questioned whether he was attracted to me, as I'd heard that Latino men were very amourous and he told me that yes he was, but while he had nothing to offer me, he would not feel right in taking things to the next level. He was doing what he felt he needed to do to protect the both of us. Plus there was the distance factor. I jokingly told him to come and live in Canada with me, he said he had no intention of leaving Mexico as he loved the lifestyle, culture and weather and fully intended on providing himself with a really good life once the job situation sorted out.
I was dying for him to take it to the next level! I found him to be extremelely conservative, very traditional, and a pure gentleman. I've now been home for 3 months and I still hear from him 3 times a week. He tells me, slowly and surely does it, and what will be will be, but not until he is ready as a man.
I'm torn between giving up and getting on with my life, and waiting it out to see if its worth the long wait. At the moment, the waiting is winning out, but its a long dry spell!
