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Thinking of moving to France and wondered if anyone has any regrets about moving to France and what they were?
 

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It really depends on what you're hoping to accomplish by moving to France. I moved here to be with my (now) husband and I'll admit life had its ups and downs the first few years here - not least of all thanks to immigration problems, health issues and "career" issues.

If you've got the right motivation and you're willing to "go with the flow" and cope with things simply not being like they are back home, it's definitely do-able.
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I miss going to the pub and being able to choose from several different ales.
And Davidstow cheddar. Unless anyone knows where I can get some...
+1. Yes, not being able to get decent cheddar or stilton in this land of 246 cheeses, and not being able to sample half a dozen different ales while reading the Sunday papers.
 

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I miss going to the pub and being able to choose from several different ales.
And Davidstow cheddar. Unless anyone knows where I can get some...
+2 I too miss a classic British (free house) pub with a quality selection of Ales. I have found somewhere in Aix en Provence which sells a few British bottled ales, but it still isn't the same!

All in all though I have absolutely no regrets with the move over here. I'm very lucky to have a beautiful flat, good job and a great social life - which is what I was dreaming of 10 months ago on my dreary commute to London each day. Plus, you can't argue with 300+ days of sunshine each year!
 

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Another for the pub, though for me it's cider i miss the most !!!

Thom, whats the name/addy of the place in Aix you get your beer from ?? Will pop over and take a look :)

And for the cheddar, there's a really good cheese shop here in salon that stocks it.

Ohh and having my sunday paper delivered on a sunday, for a lazy mornings read.

But the weather/people/food/wine/weather more than make up for it :)
 

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I'm also interested in the pub in Aix. Although it is a bit far I'll definitely make a trip at some point.

There is a shop in Annecy that sells an excellent range of British. I can't for the life of me remember its name but it is something like O'Donnells. It is on Rue de Republique.
 

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Thinking of moving to France and wondered if anyone has any regrets about moving to France and what they were?
We moved after 20 years in Southern California and we do miss the weather, we also miss our house which we spent 20 years bringing up to scratch. But that's all - don't miss the politics, health care (or lack of it), people, food preservatives and additives, etc.

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Many expats do seem to end up going home - they simply miss too much their friends and family. They miss evenings in pubs, or Sainsbury's and M and S. Or they find out that life in France is not all it's cracked up to be.

Money can also be a problem - life here isn't cheap, and if you are thinking of coming here to find work then a Plan B is needed.

If you are sure in your mind that France can deliver what you want then as Bev says it's do-able. Bring los of cheddar if that's your thing.
 

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I'm also interested in the pub in Aix. Although it is a bit far I'll definitely make a trip at some point.

There is a shop in Annecy that sells an excellent range of British. I can't for the life of me remember its name but it is something like O'Donnells. It is on Rue de Republique.
It's actually not a pub, but a small boutique selling beers from around the world. Off the top of my head, I believe it's on rue des cordeliers in the city centre. The british section is on the back on the right near the till.

All the best,

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When I first became an expat (1980! in the Vallee de Chevreuse), I missed English bookshops - hence regular expensive visits to W.H. Smith and Galliani on Rue de Rivoli. Then I moved to the US, and desperately missed BBC Radio 4, and still the British English books. THEN THE INTERNET ARRIVED! Glory be! Podcasts, and ordering books online.

Now I'm back in France, and have everything I need here. Great food, cinema, the sea, an old city, friends. Plus the occasional package from Amazon. And there's the Opera en Direct, too.

I'd be glad if the RSC felt like opening a branch theatre here, mind you!
 

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I may be splitting hairs here, but I think there's a difference between "missing things" and "having regrets" about moving to France (or anywhere else).

Things are fairly easily replaced - ordering them by mail order or online, having visitors import them for you, or simply overindulging or stocking up on them when you're back "home" on a visit. It's just a part of moving anywhere.

Regrets are different. Yes, I regret losing contact with some friends and family since moving to France. (But again, it's part of moving - there is no way you can keep up the same kind of friendship or family ties as when you were next door neighbors.)

Some folks wind up having serious regrets about making a big move (like to France) if it turns out that their career plans didn't work out for them or if the life goals they had originally had to be drastically altered when they got to France. Those are the sorts of things that make people think about maybe returning back home.
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So far no regrets - the weather is better than Canada but I do miss that Canadian staple - cheddar cheese. I compensate with lots of rosé wine.
 

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i don't know, for me regret is a sense of loss/sorrow & there are a few things (bar family/friends) that i feel this for, but one of them is the pub !!!

It's where i'd say i spent 80% of my time socialising with freinds/family/work mates etc... And it's not something i can easily replicate here in france, and certainly not able to order one online or bring one back with me ;)

I don't think the use of 'regret' has to be for only dramatic events in your life....but thats just my view.
 

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I am sorry kitekid but I have to share Bev's view on "regrets" and things you "miss". You may miss pubs, drinks with friends and colleagues, but does this really make you regret leaving the UK?
 

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If you want to distinguish between real regrets, and missing the Beeb, I'd have to say that leaving the UK was simply the best thing I did in my life. I have no regrets whatsoever - just a sense of being incredibly lucky. I have no desire even to go back and visit.

Now I've left the US - will I have regrets there? Not so far - as long as Hollande & Co don't tax me out of existence!
 

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Then again, I'm of the Edith Piaf school: Non, je ne regrette rien!

There's plenty of things I miss. And there are plenty of people I miss. But regretting something implies that you think you made a bad decision. And usually with matters of decisions you've made, there's no do-over.

I have had periods of time where I questioned the various decisions I made that got me here to France. But ultimately I made the decisions for reasons that appeared to be right at the time - and if things didn't turn out quite the way I wanted, I've done things to deal with the consequences of those decisions.
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Life's too short to have regrets but we can all learn from ill-judged decisions.
 

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I think that if the reasons for the move to another country are well grounded, that you have put in significant research prior to moving and if you are prepared to be an immigrant, be prepared to use a second language and accept another culture the way it is, you have a better chance of a successful transition. Certainly one is nostalgic for things in our pasts, but if one looks forward rather than back, with a real dose of reality for the situation and no rose coloured glasses, it's easier.

I have heard my fair share of complainers who emigrated to Canada, lived quite well and did nothing but complain about the place and I always thought, Well, if it's so lousy, do something about it - like leave! Now that I have found myself in the same situation coming to France, I resolved not to be like that.

Again, it's all about outlook.
 
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