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Hi there,

We as a family moved to Brisbane in April 2009 on a perm skilled visa 175, after alot of research and waiting. I had been there backpacking before when I had backpacked all around Australia in 2000, but my wife had never been to Australia, but was getting bored in Ipswich, Suffolk.

Anyway, we firstly made the mistake of selling our house in Suffolk before we left. I had got a I.T job secured in Brisbane before we'd had left and all was set. My wife thought she could get into Queensland Uni or just get a basic job to start with. I also shipped all our household goods and car over there.

We arrived and everything went firstly well, loved the beaches, weather, people, got my car over from the UK and Visited lots of places. Got into my job well and met lots of new people.

Then my wife couldn't get into Queensland Uni as it was too expensive and found it hard to get even a very basic job like Checkout at Coles or on Queensland Rail, and then she fell pregnant with our 2nd child which is due in May 2010.
We saw Riverfire along the Brisbane River and all the fireworks, went to Australia Zoo, been to 36 different beaches and Islands.

But my wife couldn't get the UK out of her head, some days where better than others. She also started getting bored of the beaches and found the heat in the summer too much making her tired during the day. She also hated shopping there, compared with the shops in the UK. She didn't like the bugs and spiders, and thought Queenslander houses where far too cold in the winter months, and air conditioning on all the time in the summer.

She said we could stay first of all, but wouldn't buy a house here.

Our daughter was enjoying Kindy and was all set to go to her new Primary School in Brisbane.

We had a crap Christmas and didn't feel very Xmas at all.

In the new year, she was worried that if we went back in 4 years time after at least getting our Aussie passports that I would come back to a less paid job etc. A job came up that was good paid and also she was in her 2nd trimester of pregnancy so we came back last week. Even with the lovely new Airbus A380 which is great, there isn't anything good back 21 hrs travel. We didnt have to money to try Sydney or Melbourne which could have been better suited to her.

Didn't want to go back at all to Suffolk so now we are living in Tunbridge Wells.

Ever since I've come back I've had sessions of depression and ups and downs. Biggest one is all the money wasted and for no achievement , as we didn't even get our passports.

Pretty down coming back to the cold, dark days and all the rubbish around Heathrow.

I personally feel that I've made a big mistake, but my wife is happy to be back and will be giving birth in May. Its been very hard to start again in Tunbridge Wells not knowing a sole and getting a Primary School place when its so over-subscribed at every Primary.

She said the only way we would go back is if I can pay off our debts, buy a house etc before our Visa runs out in 2013 and she'd go back to get the Passports and rent the house out.

But that is a tall order and for me it could be too much, who knows.

Its been a roller coaster ride and in the end its led to nothing really, at the moment. I'm back to going on the train to London on Monday, great!

At the time though she wasn't prepared to give Sydney or Melbourne ago as we just didn't have the money short term for moving again.

Anyway, baby on the way, I'm not allowed to moan about being here again and got to work for the next 4 years earning as much money as I can!!
 

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Hi Surfbum:

Thanks for the post. I do wish you luck in life, and I don't discount that you may well be back in Australia. Right now you don't see the path back, but 2013 is not that close. This year is going to be basically going to be taken up by baby and re-settling in to the UK life.

But keep on thinking, also keep saving as money in the bank doesn't hurt you and does open up opportunities if you give them enough thought.

You still gave it a go when many people just think about it for a lifetime.

Hi there,

We as a family moved to Brisbane in April 2009 on a perm skilled visa 175, after alot of research and waiting. I had been there backpacking before when I had backpacked all around Australia in 2000, but my wife had never been to Australia, but was getting bored in Ipswich, Suffolk.

Anyway, we firstly made the mistake of selling our house in Suffolk before we left. I had got a I.T job secured in Brisbane before we'd had left and all was set. My wife thought she could get into Queensland Uni or just get a basic job to start with. I also shipped all our household goods and car over there.

We arrived and everything went firstly well, loved the beaches, weather, people, got my car over from the UK and Visited lots of places. Got into my job well and met lots of new people.

Then my wife couldn't get into Queensland Uni as it was too expensive and found it hard to get even a very basic job like Checkout at Coles or on Queensland Rail, and then she fell pregnant with our 2nd child which is due in May 2010.
We saw Riverfire along the Brisbane River and all the fireworks, went to Australia Zoo, been to 36 different beaches and Islands.

But my wife couldn't get the UK out of her head, some days where better than others. She also started getting bored of the beaches and found the heat in the summer too much making her tired during the day. She also hated shopping there, compared with the shops in the UK. She didn't like the bugs and spiders, and thought Queenslander houses where far too cold in the winter months, and air conditioning on all the time in the summer.

She said we could stay first of all, but wouldn't buy a house here.

Our daughter was enjoying Kindy and was all set to go to her new Primary School in Brisbane.

We had a crap Christmas and didn't feel very Xmas at all.

In the new year, she was worried that if we went back in 4 years time after at least getting our Aussie passports that I would come back to a less paid job etc. A job came up that was good paid and also she was in her 2nd trimester of pregnancy so we came back last week. Even with the lovely new Airbus A380 which is great, there isn't anything good back 21 hrs travel. We didnt have to money to try Sydney or Melbourne which could have been better suited to her.

Didn't want to go back at all to Suffolk so now we are living in Tunbridge Wells.

Ever since I've come back I've had sessions of depression and ups and downs. Biggest one is all the money wasted and for no achievement , as we didn't even get our passports.

Pretty down coming back to the cold, dark days and all the rubbish around Heathrow.

I personally feel that I've made a big mistake, but my wife is happy to be back and will be giving birth in May. Its been very hard to start again in Tunbridge Wells not knowing a sole and getting a Primary School place when its so over-subscribed at every Primary.

She said the only way we would go back is if I can pay off our debts, buy a house etc before our Visa runs out in 2013 and she'd go back to get the Passports and rent the house out.

But that is a tall order and for me it could be too much, who knows.

Its been a roller coaster ride and in the end its led to nothing really, at the moment. I'm back to going on the train to London on Monday, great!

At the time though she wasn't prepared to give Sydney or Melbourne ago as we just didn't have the money short term for moving again.

Anyway, baby on the way, I'm not allowed to moan about being here again and got to work for the next 4 years earning as much money as I can!!
 

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Thanks for the update.

My heart goes out to you. I know a fair few people who have hated living here, gone back to the UK and within a couple weeks realised they have made a mistake and that they want to move back (but not to the same State).

I guess all you can do is give your wife time. Hopefully she may decide in a few years time to give it another go - and to try somewhere different.

Please keep us updated on how you are getting on, and wishing you all the best for your impending bundle of joy!

Dolly xx
 

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You say you wasted money for nothing, but that is not the case, you seized the opportunity and went for it, you tried, you have that experience and boy do you seem to have learnt a lots about yourselves!

It could well be that a different state would be right for you and personally I believe that you need 18-24 months to know for sure

However I also know that babies alter everything - if only for a year or two and you may be better making the next decision when you new baby is a year old or so. It's hard to emigrate at any time but adding pregnancy hormones into the mix has to make it harder!!

good luck
 

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when does your PR visa expire? i suppose 3+ years, convincing your wife is worth it. who knows tomorrow she wants to go back. next winter might bring back the sunny days in her mind.
 

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Hi surfbum99,

At least you are not the only one going through this.
I know exactly how your wife feels - trust me, am going through it here in New Zealand. I moved to NZ and thought wow, this is it!
But after my first weekend I realized I had made the biggest mistake of my life!!! This place is just not for me. Its a feeling that developed and grew so strong that I decided to move to Australia.
But again, one thing I realized is that the country isn't the problem but rather am located in the wrong city! I know this but never the less I have decided to leave because the NZ weather is generally as unpleasant as that of the UK.

I wish you all the best!

Zenji
 

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But wasnt that long ago you were saying how much you didnt like Australia and were looking forward to Tunbridge Wells, british summers....?????? What you've gotta do for now is nothing, just remember what you didnt like about Oz! You've gotta restless heart, I think I've said that in previous posts you've put on here! Stop thinking about the money, you'll get more. its not as important as being happy. Settle down and give it a chance for your wife and families sake.

Jo xxx
 

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........... P.S. another tip is to read thru your old posts and see if that helps you to understand where you are now


Jo xxx
 

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Hi Surfbum:

Thanks for the post. I do wish you luck in life, and I don't discount that you may well be back in Australia. Right now you don't see the path back, but 2013 is not that close. This year is going to be basically going to be taken up by baby and re-settling in to the UK life.

But keep on thinking, also keep saving as money in the bank doesn't hurt you and does open up opportunities if you give them enough thought.

You still gave it a go when many people just think about it for a lifetime.
Dear Surfbum
Don't despair. We lived just outside Byron Bay 2004-2006 were there for about 18 months. Ideallic place, like your wife I couldn't get a job and became very depressed. Could only visualise and pine for my beloved London. We came back after 18 months as I swore blind I would never return. Like you, my husband was very down for months and months - couldn't settle in the UK. We've since had 2 children and I've realised that as much as I still love London (that will never change) Australia is the place to bring up my kids. We are returning Novembet 2010. Give your wife a couple of cold winters here and see what happens!! Don't give up!!
 

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Hi surfbum99,

I really feel for you. It really can't be easy when partners want different things.

A few things....
It's a grotty time to move back to the UK since you've left summer here for winter in the UK, so give yourself some time to adjust to the climate.

When you start seeing family and friends (or making new friends) it may get easier.

Money isn't just about earning money it's about being wise with it and getting yourself educated to find some good investments. Network with investors and see what they are up to.

Some great books are 'Rich Dad Poor Dad' by Robert Kiyosaki or 'One Minute Millionaire' by Mark Victor Hansen and Robert G Allen. I'm not connected with those books and authors in any way apart from that they helped us some years ago and opened our eyes to what's possible.

We all have a limited amount of time when we are working for money since there are only so many hours in a week, but when you have investments working for you then it becomes easier. However as with anything you have to get some education (which can be books) and do your due diligence.

Focus on what you have (a new addition to look forward to), what you have learned from your experience and what you can achieve.

I would wish you good luck but I've learned that when people commit to something then they achieve it. Decide what you want to commit to and work towards it.

Regards,
Karen
 
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