I saw that. I also saw on the carer support site that it has happened that people who register sometimes accidentally (not sure how that happens) receive the allowance, so I thought I'd make a point of mentioning it.
My husband is doing great, and we have every hope of the cancer never recurring but we went through a scare last summer. His consultant brought the carer question up and seemed to think I'd be able to make my way through the paperwork without a problem, and she said something about it being a plus in my ILR application "...in case..."
It made me a bit uncomfortable because caring for a loved one is just what you do, it's a given, a no-brainer. Then I looked into it, and realised how very well put together the support system is for carers in the UK as opposed to the US.
I cared for my father back in the mid-80s and there have been few if any changes since then-carers in the US are on their own, can't really Google even now to find trained, intelligent support, and there certainly are no organisations that are otherwise easy to find beyond what little support carers can find only when the loved one goes to hospice.
I think the OP is under a tremendous amount of quadruple+ pressure just now. I know I was exhausted just caring for my dad
and family which at the time included a husband, child in diapers, and a child in kindergarten. I remember thinking if only I could talk with people who understood what I was going through...
The OP is coping with all that, in a new country that is sometimes (for me any road, and I was half raised here) more confusing at times because of the juxtaposition of the commonalities and differences. And to top it off, the additional stress of the ILR process