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Hello Every one !!

I don't know I am on right platform to ask this question or not but I feel like I must ask may be I got good advice from you people..

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I am Pakistani National married with a a girl who is USA green card holder and got EU citizenship as well. our relation in almost now 9 years and we married last year May 2014 in court marriage Pakistan. as this marriage is court marriage and her family was not happy with this marriage. but after marriage my in laws get agree that they gonna arrange a marriage ceremony and then they will do it properly so every one can involve. so I send my wife back to USA but after this its up to 10 months now they just trying to make me fool and they don't even want to send her back. as we already marriage and she want to come here and live with me but her parents are not allowing her she is very upset. she can't go out side with out her family.

my question is that which plat form is best to raise this issue and I can get my wife back.

I talk to USA embassy in Pakistan Karachi, and they very miss behaved with me and insult me when I share this issue with them and they said that I am not allowed to ask here and I have wasted there time and that was really very awkward moment for me that I can't raise my issue in front of USA embassy.

If any one advice me regarding this issue that would be very help full for me.



Please have a look on my request and give me some guidelines.

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I'm not sure I understand the issue. If your wife wishes to rejoin you in a particular place, she will, provided she legally can. If she doesn't, she won't. It's her decision to make -- and re-make every day, for that matter. Of course you can and should offer financial support (for example, buy her a plane ticket) and immigration help (for example, your sponsorship of her visa, as applicable). Love, affection, and respect certainly wouldn't hurt either.

Her family may have influence over her decision, even considerable influence, but she's an adult (I assume) with free will. I assume they're not holding her in a dungeon.

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What does your wife want to do?

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If your wife is over 18 she is free in the US to do and go where she wants
her parent cannot stop her

The US consulate of course cannot help you ... you wife is American ..she has free will
something she cannot have in Pakistan

there is no platform to help you its a private matter
and pergaps its she that does not wish to be a chattel

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If your wife is over 18 she is free in the US to do and go where she wants
her parent cannot stop her

The US consulate of course cannot help you ... you wife is American ..she has free will
something she cannot have in Pakistan

there is no platform to help you its a private matter
and pergaps its she that does not wish to be a chattel
Hi Davis

thanks for your reply. actually she wanted to join me as we did court marriage so her family was not agree before but we did with our own court marriage then her family agreed on one thing that I she came back USA then they will arrange marriage ceremony and send he back. but this was a trick to get back her home usa. now she is very tensed and she don't allowed to go out side with out her family. I know she have rights but the problem is that her family is stopping to use her rights. she wants to live with me. and thats why I am raising the issue but I am not getting any direction how to do.

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thanks for your reply. actually she wanted to join me as we did court marriage so her family was not agree before but we did with our own court marriage then her family agreed on one thing that I she came back USA then they will arrange marriage ceremony and send he back. but this was a trick to get back her home usa. now she is very tensed and she don't allowed to go out side with out her family. I know she have rights but the problem is that her family is stopping to use her rights. she wants to live with me. and thats why I am raising the issue but I am not getting any direction how to do.
If she really is being held against her will by her parents, then the police should be involved. However, how do you know for sure???? Do you speak to her?

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Hi jojo thanks for your asking,

she wants to live with me. we did court marriage against her family because her family was not giving her right to do marriage with me. that's why we did our own and she came Pakistan. but after that her parents realize that we did marriage and in relatives its break down there respect so they made a trick and told her that if she came back to USA then they will arrange a marriage ceremony and send her back. we admitted this advise and thought they are parents and they are not lying but after that they stop her and its now 10 months she want to come we talk every day . but her family not allowing her to come back. even she can't move out side with out her parents. as they think may be she go again and join with me. so that's the problem how to resolve and where to raise this issue.

I hope you understand ..

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If she really is being held against her will by her parents, then the police should be involved. However, how do you know for sure???? Do you speak to her?

Jo xxx
yes we are in contact every day even she just talk to me 2 hours before and she is very upset. I told her that her parents not allowing her to come back then after 1 week I will involved police in this matter.

I respect her parents feelings but I guess her parents are not respecting her daughters feelings.

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yes we are in contact every day even she just talk to me 2 hours before and she is very upset. I told her that her parents not allowing her to come back then after 1 week I will involved police in this matter.

I respect her parents feelings but I guess her parents are not respecting her daughters feelings.
She needs to involve the police if she is being held captive, as she is the one who has the alleged problem, not you since you're not in the country

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I'm not sure I understand the issue. If your wife wishes to rejoin you in a particular place, she will, provided she legally can. If she doesn't, she won't. It's her decision to make -- and re-make every day, for that matter. Of course you can and should offer financial support (for example, buy her a plane ticket) and immigration help (for example, your sponsorship of her visa, as applicable). Love, affection, and respect certainly wouldn't hurt either.

Her family may have influence over her decision, even considerable influence, but she's an adult (I assume) with free will. I assume they're not holding her in a dungeon.
Hi BBC

i am really sorry if you not understand my issue as my english is not that good.

she is my wife and her parents are holding her at home and she is very tensed now what to do. as she have not free rights to move from her home thats the main problem as her family think that may be she go back to Pakistan and join me. as she wants to.


you can see other message I replied to jojo and davis hope this will help more.

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