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I have been divorced for the past 4 years, where I met my control freak , verbally and physically abusive boyfriend who has controlled my movement, intimated me, called me names, belittled me, shame **** me and I got stripped out of all my friends.
Now am just a shadow of human, with no single friend, no body call me except him to CHECK where I am, I'm not allowed to go out alone or to the malls, not allowed to talk to male friends, I get neglected, abandoned for weeks then after one hour he become sweet.
I have start to go to a psychiatrist and he said I'm severely depressed and started giving me medication which sedates me all the time..I have lost my self respect, love for life, I started to feel all women are better then me, and those who are married are so lucky because they are good enough for a man to marry them, while I get a NO way I will marry someone like you , he just stay but we are so different and estranged, I was very much into him, but now I don't feel anything except pain and sadness.
I'm so sad, even if I find a friend, he wont let me go out..and I can't break the chain because he dominated me and stripped me out of people , if I leave I have NO ONE for me...
I need to be loved, he makes me feel that I'm unworthy of love, I need to feel a warm loving friend beside me..
my relation with him made me believe that man only after me for sexual reasons, he said you are ugly and cheap **** and no one will ever consider to marry you as his wife, they will just use you and dumb you.
I'm so broken ,I'm very upset with myself. and as usual crying in the office.

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Get away from this horrible person. No one needs someone like that in their life. You really do need to ditch him, find a place of your own and start fresh.

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I have been divorced for the past 4 years, where I met my control freak , verbally and physically abusive boyfriend who has controlled my movement, intimated me, called me names, belittled me, shame **** me and I got stripped out of all my friends.
Now am just a shadow of human, with no single friend, no body call me except him to CHECK where I am, I'm not allowed to go out alone or to the malls, not allowed to talk to male friends, I get neglected, abandoned for weeks then after one hour he become sweet.
I have start to go to a psychiatrist and he said I'm severely depressed and started giving me medication which sedates me all the time..I have lost my self respect, love for life, I started to feel all women are better then me, and those who are married are so lucky because they are good enough for a man to marry them, while I get a NO way I will marry someone like you , he just stay but we are so different and estranged, I was very much into him, but now I don't feel anything except pain and sadness.
I'm so sad, even if I find a friend, he wont let me go out..and I can't break the chain because he dominated me and stripped me out of people , if I leave I have NO ONE for me...
I need to be loved, he makes me feel that I'm unworthy of love, I need to feel a warm loving friend beside me..
my relation with him made me believe that man only after me for sexual reasons, he said you are ugly and cheap **** and no one will ever consider to marry you as his wife, they will just use you and dumb you.
I'm so broken ,I'm very upset with myself. and as usual crying in the office.
Sorry to hear about your situation but you can't let the fear of loneliness or facing life on your own stop you from getting away from him.

Recently this website has been suggested to another person who is witnessing abuse so please get in touch with them, they should be able to offer help and guidance Dubai Foundation for Women and Children | Building Strong Bonds for Life

Do you live together with this man?
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Old 14th April 2013, 07:28 AM
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I have been divorced for the past 4 years, where I met my control freak , verbally and physically abusive boyfriend who has controlled my movement, intimated me, called me names, belittled me, shame **** me and I got stripped out of all my friends.
Now am just a shadow of human, with no single friend, no body call me except him to CHECK where I am, I'm not allowed to go out alone or to the malls, not allowed to talk to male friends, I get neglected, abandoned for weeks then after one hour he become sweet.
I have start to go to a psychiatrist and he said I'm severely depressed and started giving me medication which sedates me all the time..I have lost my self respect, love for life, I started to feel all women are better then me, and those who are married are so lucky because they are good enough for a man to marry them, while I get a NO way I will marry someone like you , he just stay but we are so different and estranged, I was very much into him, but now I don't feel anything except pain and sadness.
I'm so sad, even if I find a friend, he wont let me go out..and I can't break the chain because he dominated me and stripped me out of people , if I leave I have NO ONE for me...
I need to be loved, he makes me feel that I'm unworthy of love, I need to feel a warm loving friend beside me..
my relation with him made me believe that man only after me for sexual reasons, he said you are ugly and cheap **** and no one will ever consider to marry you as his wife, they will just use you and dumb you.
I'm so broken ,I'm very upset with myself. and as usual crying in the office.
Oh, dear ...
U said u r in the office, which means that u work, which means that u don't depend on him .. So, what is the reason u don't leave him?
Fear of being alone? Come on, it's better to be alone, than to be with a person like him!
What about ur family? How come u had no one for the past 4 years to advise u to leave this monster???
U don't need any pills, or psychologist, u just need to leave this guy!
Do u have any kids from the previous marriage?

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Old 14th April 2013, 08:39 AM
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I have been divorced for the past 4 years, where I met my control freak , verbally and physically abusive boyfriend who has controlled my movement, intimated me, called me names, belittled me, shame **** me and I got stripped out of all my friends.
Now am just a shadow of human, with no single friend, no body call me except him to CHECK where I am, I'm not allowed to go out alone or to the malls, not allowed to talk to male friends, I get neglected, abandoned for weeks then after one hour he become sweet.
I have start to go to a psychiatrist and he said I'm severely depressed and started giving me medication which sedates me all the time..I have lost my self respect, love for life, I started to feel all women are better then me, and those who are married are so lucky because they are good enough for a man to marry them, while I get a NO way I will marry someone like you , he just stay but we are so different and estranged, I was very much into him, but now I don't feel anything except pain and sadness.
I'm so sad, even if I find a friend, he wont let me go out..and I can't break the chain because he dominated me and stripped me out of people , if I leave I have NO ONE for me...
I need to be loved, he makes me feel that I'm unworthy of love, I need to feel a warm loving friend beside me..
my relation with him made me believe that man only after me for sexual reasons, he said you are ugly and cheap **** and no one will ever consider to marry you as his wife, they will just use you and dumb you.
I'm so broken ,I'm very upset with myself. and as usual crying in the office.
The fact that you were married before shows that you are/were and will be worthy of someones true love. Men

Men that behave like this are often those that have low self esteem and require to keep on putting a person down to make themselves feel big.

Turn to your creator, have patience, as you will not be placed a burden greater than you can bear.

Hope you feel better and hope yo get the courage to leave this person that is bringing you down.

May God be with you!
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My instinct tells me that, at the very least this man has other partners, if not a wife/wives. You are worth so much more. He intimidates you because he is scared of losing you, that's it, short and simple. Get away from him. Change your mobile number and move house (I also have a feeling you are staying somewhere he pays for).

Stay strong - you can do it.

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if I leave I have NO ONE for me...

And that is certainly not true. You already have complete strangers, here at EF, that believe that you will be great.

Take the time and be good to yourself. BedouGirl is right - be strong, you can do it.

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[QUOTE=hubbly_bubbly;1129458]To begin with with, a reward for being you:





That's so sweet of u, hubbly bubbly. U absolutely deserve thanks!

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The problem is that the moment you let the other person treat you like crap, they will continue to do so until you put your foot down. Doesn't matter if it's man/woman/marriage/relationship/friendship or even work. Men tend to do this more than women because the natural order of the world favors them especially in some cultures. Women can be just as cruel and yes it is about self-esteem, yours and theirs.

You need to make friends and forget about relationships for now. Get rid of that idiot and find some good people. It may take a while but with good friends you will find someone who loves you but even if you don't, you still have friends and that's better than the thing you call a boyfriend now.

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This would have initiated some encouragement in you to change the way you live now ... wish you all the best

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