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re, meaning “again”
patria, meaning “native country”
According to Merriam-Webster, the definition of repatriation for the past 500 years has been this:
To return to the country of origin,
allegiance, or citizenship

With our upcoming retirement and move I have all these mix emotions. What would it be like to repatriate after 35 years of living in the United States? I remember the first time I visited the Philippines, I cried myself to sleep because I was shocked... culture shock! I didn't think it would be that hard when I first went to visit in 2007. After all, what could be simpler than going home? I'm just going back to where I came from, and I know the ropes there.

“Re-entry into one’s culture of origin is more stressful, with more unexpected consequences, than a transition into the unfamiliar,” they claim. This reverse culture shock (also known as re-entry shock) is all the more devastating because no one sees it coming: expats fully expect to be confused and frustrated in a new cultural environment, but not in the home culture they know so well.

I have read the longer you’re away, the more difficult the re-adjustment process will be. I love my life here in the US. This is where I became an adult, became my own person. I raised a family and built a wonderful life here. It will be hard to leave, and I know there will be challenges when we move.

What advice would you give someone on the eve of their repatriation? What can I do to make repatriation easier?
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I can understand your feeling as I am somewhat in similar situation as you are. I have been living in Australia for the last 30 years. My 3 kids are all grown ups and have a family and life of their own.
My husband and I have been preparing for our retirement in the last 5 years. We come to the Philippines very often as part of preparation for repatriation so the readjustment will not difficult. We also purchased a property in a gated community with excellent amenities. Our residence is designed according to our standard and most of the devices we use are also of international standard.
Bought a car which we use every time we are here. Hired a driver initially just to familiarise again to the road and how to deal with the crazy drivers in Manila but now that we are used to it, my husband or I drive our car whenever we are here.

Relatives do not live with us. I enjoy visiting relatives as we bond and reminisce the past when we are still kids. Love eating the Filipino food and going to the islands when free. Filipinos as you know are friendly, hospitable and respectful.
We have new few but very good friends who are in same bracket whom we go out with for dinner, travel or simply to chat with.

Will be ready for full retirement in 3 years and I look forward to it with excitement and positive outlook. My husband is Australian and can't wait till we live here full time.
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Hi Millette, I assume you're still a PI citizen which enabled you to purchase the property?

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Thank you all for excellent and insightful advise! I am a Naturalized US Citizen but planning to get my dual (Filipino) citizen at the same time we work on getting my husband's 13A visa.

We decided to make our home two provinces away from relatives. It's close enough for us to visit them but not too close for them to just drop by everyday. My relatives know that I am not a push over, I do help them out but I am very selective. They know my personal philosophy is: "Why should I help you, when you don't even try to help yourself." My husband and I worked hard to get where we are now and not about to just give money away to lazy relatives. I help my relatives who are trying to better themselves and I can see that they are, then I help.

I'm looking forward to retirement in the Philippines! We will be in Central Luzon area, Cabanatuan City to be exact. I started a Central Luzon Expat group on FB, in hopes of meeting other Expat/Repat couples in the area.

Thanks, again for all the advise! :-)
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We decided to make our home two provinces away from relatives. It's close enough for us to visit them but not too close for them to just drop by everyday.
Not too close so when they do show they'll expect to stay a couple days! You'll learn that two provinces is nothing! That's a two hour 50 peso bus ride!
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Not too close so when they do show they'll expect to stay a couple days! You'll learn that two provinces is nothing! That's a two hour 50 peso bus ride!
Haha. Our house is in a gated community. The security guards are not allowed to let anyone (visitors) in unless their name is on the list. If they come unannounced, will just pretend that we are out of town. That should teach them a lesson.

The bus fare is more like 300 pesos one way. I don't think they would spend 600 pesos to come visit us. I usually invite my favorite relatives and give them bus fare.
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I don't know, for people with little money my relatives seem to be pretty mobile. Travelling between provinces and islands at will. They seem to come up with travel money if they think the destination will bear fruit!

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I don't know, for people with little money my relatives seem to be pretty mobile. Travelling between provinces and islands at will. They seem to come up with travel money if they think the destination will bear fruit!
And they only need to find one way as they'll expect you to pay the return.
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I do help them out but I am very selective. They know my personal philosophy is: "Why should I help you, when you don't even try to help yourself." My husband and I worked hard to get where we are now and not about to just give money away to lazy relatives. I help my relatives who are trying to better themselves and I can see that they are, then I help.

I'm looking forward to retirement in the Philippines! We will be in Central Luzon area, Cabanatuan City to be exact. I started a Central Luzon Expat group on FB, in hopes of meeting other Expat/Repat couples in the area.
We have a similar philosophy, we help the ones who are really trying to get somewhere. We paid a lot of tuition and told the recipients that their payment to us would be to help other members of their immediate family. We never call the help a loan, that is the most misused word on Luzon. We set up one niece with an American husband, so if anyone in her family asks for anything we tell them to contact their American daughter/sister/aunt.

And now for something completely different. Can you tell me, Miss August, is there anything of historical note in Cabanatuan concerning the Japanese POW camp that was liberated by Filipinos and American rangers in 1945? I would love to check it out on my next trip, I believe the structure was a few miles outside of town. Any info or help would be appreciated, good luck on your repatriation efforts, I do believe you are on the right path.
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So, what's up Miss August ? Is your country of origin working out ok for you?

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