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This seems to be an odd question.

My main reason for a possible relocation to the Philippines is that expats living there say the people are very friendly. (I would not want to live in Manila though based on what I have read about it)).

Do Filipino's care about the welfare of their next door neighbor?

Here in the USA, I'm not saying citizens are not friendly, but it seems Americans do not really care much about the welfare of others. I belong to a certain church group. Its been about 8 years since anyone in my church invited me to their home for a meal(I am single and live alone). I'm not bashing my church, it is because most are very busy living the American life style. (There are members of my same church group in the Philippines).

My present neighbor, while he seems to be a nice guy and we say hi to each other, I really don't think he cares what happens to me.

Any comments about the way Filipino's view their neighbor's?
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Filipinos are friendly people.
But in my experience of living here since 2011 neighbours here in the Philippines are the same as those in the UK !
Our neighbours to the left we hardly see ,the neighbours to the right who are cousins of the wife only visit us if they want to borrow money,
the neighbours across the road who are also cousins often give us food and invite to parties.
The most visits from neighbours was when we held 2 wakes here for late family members !
My wife made it very clear when we first moved here that we not going to be a bank to anybody !
And also my wife and her sister although they both go to church most sundays
are not members of any specific church which also seems to be a factor here .
How do Filipinos see their neighbours ?
I suppose in our case they see as being rich as we have built our new house at the back of the family compound
And have added a carport and new gates to the front of the compound, and we have a new car and we employ
A regular driver , one of the neighbours actually stopped him and asked him what he did for us and asked how much we paid him !
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Thank you for your comments.

I have found many things difficult to understand. For example, most everyone says Filipino's are friendly. But I watch You Tube video's where a home owner has steel bars over their windows and walls and locked gates around their house.

The more I keep looking into this, it seems the Philippines may not be a good fit for me, considering that I have health problems, and prescription meds cost's are ridiculous. I am not a seasoned traveler, you got to watch out for petty crime (like hold onto your wallet, or carrying a backpack on the front of you instead of behind you).

I have never had any problems like this in the USA!

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I think I'm going to ditch my plans about moving to Philippines. Not even visit there for a few weeks. There's too much uncertainty about the matter.

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Hey Marky32

Moving to the Philippines in like going to another world. There is no comparison to what you will experience there and your country. Yes, they are a friendly society. With saying that there are several negatives to it also. I don't think most care about your welfare there. They look at you being rich and having things they can't have there. They also are brought up a different way then most are in my country and other countries. They have no regards to how noisy they get and disturb you. They have no concern about asking you for money. Most will take advantage of you if you let them get by with it. I don't believe they know any better. this is the way they are raised there by their parents. If you can't accept this life style then you should not move there.

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Just to add that in the 8 years i have lived here we have never had problems , yes a lot depends on where you are , such as the begging children in Manila and most large road junctions this time of year.
But it takes common sense really even in the UK around london and even in Paris France there are beggers !
Took the wife to disneyland paris and the train journey was bad as it had many Romanian beggers and they are very persistant ! I feel much safer here than i did during the last 3 years we lived in the UK ,with its no go areas at night
And its PC correct mentality ! And i just love the attention we get when we go shopping, and here they even unpack things you want to buy! I will never go back to the UK !
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People are people. It is not that different anywhere. (some crazy laws may be different...)
Here in the PIs they are very friendly, and like to offer you drinks and invite you merienda, but that is more of a social friendliness. If you need help getting to an ambulance, they will help. If you laying dead in the path, they will step over you and go about their day. But in the US, many would not even help you to an ambulance ha ha. So no worries.

I have lived here 6 years and still having a good time. I go to the city and everyone is friendly, but I have no close Filipino friends. For an introvert like me, that is a perfect setup.
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Marky, there are books that you might want to check out on Philippine Culture it's a little different here so that could help you in many ways, here's a couple examples: Somebody is eating and you came to visit and they offer you food they are just being polite to their guest "you" and don't eat their food unless they bring you a plate another example would be you are asking questions and they will nod there's no yes or no head shaking and at times confusing.

You wouldn't want to come here cold off the plane and by yourself, yes the people are friendly and this could be the spot you'd want to live in but your going to find that many citizens don't speak English or limited English so your conversations will be strained unless in larger cities or tourist locations but your main issue will be your Immigration status.
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Marky----When I first came to the Philippines I was in total shock. I was at a resort with my wife to be and she ask me to invite her sister and husband to come over and swim. So I did. Lord behold when they showed up there were 20 of them. They invited themselves to come and swim on my money. I had to pay for all of them. This is the way they are there. You will need to make a lot of adjustments.

Then another time I invited her sister to go out to dinner with us. Well, again they showed up with 10 people and expected me to pay for everything. My wife to be told me I needed to pay for their food. I was going to pay my bill and let them worry about their own food bill.

Don't let anybody fool you into thinking it will be all heaven there. You got to accept this way of life or you will be miserable. Just telling you the honest truth. Like M.C,A said immigration is another matter. There are several options that the Philippine government has there. So, you can pick which one you would like to do. I understand if you can afford the deposit that is the simplest one to do.

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I tend to agree with most of the input here. I think I did mention in a previous post that most expats/retirees come here for love and family and not necessarily the cheapest place to live and as said there are plenty of nicer/cheaper countries to retire/move to especially if single, back on track, met most of our neighbours, socialised drinks and BBQ's, dinners but we don't live in each others pockets but know full well if there are any problems we can call for help as my better half just did with local flooding, asked our opposite neighbour can I relocate our car to your house (higher ground)? Yes sure I will open the gates. Help is also reciprocated in various ways by us and other neighbours shared and to date has a community feel, in saying this all our locals are foreigners with Filipino partners that have lived in their respective partners countries for many years, then retired back to PH. and appear to be more worldly and switched on same as my better half is.
Neighbours are great and to date the further away (barangay) neighbours and locals have always been warm and more than helpful.
In oz our property (50 acres) is rural, 6 direct boundary neighbours, only speak to one that agists his cattle on our property 365 days a year and from time to time we chat on the phone, not seen him or his lovely wife for 3 perhaps 4 years, don't need to, the dude on the other side of the road we wave and an occasional pleasantry and this suits us while living there. No BS, absolutely no expectations but simple respect.

So back to our OP Marky no I don't care for nor entertain the locals in OZ no matter southern or northern states prior experiences dictate mostly because generally it's dog eat dog and we are all focused on earning a crust and putting it on the table. Philippines or USA? Absolutely no different. As for living in Manila, my experience only we did this for 12 months in a condo and never met nor socialised with any of the neighbours in all of the 23 stories occupied,,,,,, only security guards, nothing lost nor gained though my stay there was semi retirement Ben worked his 5/6 day job while I got out and about on the local transport/trains, planes, automobiles, jeepnies and tricycles and plenty of walking and had a ball, always new experiences but always reminded by Ben "never go to Tondo",,,,,,,,, perhaps the back blocks of nasty areas in any country. Tondo we did visit twice, that was enough, Calcutta rings a bell.

No matter the country Marky it certainly comes back to research, the reasons why one chose that particular country,,,,,, love, freedom, economy, beauty. If one is looking for good neighbours (comes generally with the locale) on the ground and tasting the fare is the only way to go. What rocks your boat or mine. Told you this I think once before, get your hands dirty and then decide the neighbourhood you could/would live in but don't dig a hole, (escape plan) realism and fantasies hit us all in the end and while never visiting the Philippines to essentially observe the local culture then ask what the neighbours are/could be like is probably putting the cart before the horse and then some.

An interesting topic that has probably raised thoughts with those reading/living, myself included. I will go back to this comment "Do Filipino's care about the welfare of their next door neighbour?" and simply ask will this be returned when the chips are down for them, from you? Life is a two way street and given this post I think you will be searching for your nirvana relentlessly.

No issues with your church group as Ben and I are both christians though not church goers and at times raise the questions with those believers "why are you not seeking help from your church/fellow members that will accept, feed you and welcome you into their home/s. Perhaps and I did mention this before in another post that help and guidance can be sought from many avenues, expat sites included.

Neighbours can be cantankerous, naive, giving and taking, sly, avoiding, oblivious or dictatorial and simply ones choice to live with "neighbours" or shut them out with an occasional wave or pleasantry.
Neighbours are the least of your worries or insecurities no matter the country you chose to move to, they will be there where ever you land and you will find good/bad or an acceptable level no different to living/working where you are now. Hear that.
I didn't move to PH because I might find good neighbours. Fraught with misnomers and delusions.

BTW as always long winded, soz.

Cheers, Steve.
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