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she has a birth certificate but in her mother's maiden name, when she went to get SSS so she could use it as ID fore her passport she was told by them that as her dad is named on the certificate she should be under his name, as he is dead and her mother unable to travel she has got to travel from negros to manila to sort it out and then try again to get her SSS sorted for ID.
Regarding her Birth Certificate is in her "Mothers" maiden name.

That is quite common here. It's because her mother and father were not married at the time of her birth. Then the birth certificate must be in the woman's name "who gave birth to the child".

She simply has to tell them all she was born out of wedlock. Have her show the date of Mothers marriage certificate and compare to the birth certificate and if needed a notarized letter stating the circumstances. No need to travel to Manila, just another excuse for you to send more money for a not needed trip to Manila. Then she'll add a few friends or relatives to the trip as an excuse so she will be safe. (More money needed) LOL. All can be taken care of at her nearest NSO Office where she lives.

Be alert for stall tactics like the ones she's giving. They will give many to get all they can until they are busted. I'm not saying this is the case but just be aware of stall tactics.

You asked for advice, my best advice to you as it was mentioned here, have her spend 150 pesos for a CENOMAR (Certificate of non marriage) and tell her to take a picture of it or scan it along with her original birth record and email it to you. Tell her it's needed on your end to start the process.


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Guys you are giving him very good information but its clear he isn't here to listen, he keeps skipping over all of the posts where people post warnings or doubt and only replies to the immigration posts. it's clear he is in love and blinded by it, which happens to alot of foreigners in the Philippines. Let him find out the hard way.
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hi Gary,

I'd be grateful if you could PM me some details please.

thanks....




also thank you to everyone else, i'm sure i will get there in the end, just each step seems to be so slow like ID for a passport is a SSS card that can take 6 months, a driving licence that i have no idea about yet but will soon or a voters card or something like that.
also seems she needs to travel from her island to manila to get her birth certificate sorted as well :/
Post your questions and circumstances in the British forum as you are a Brit wanting to marry a Philippine citizen and take her to the UK.

Plenty of people on that forum will be able to tell you what you need to do with regard meeting financial requirements, relationship proof and accommodation requirements. Also how to apply.

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There is an NSO office in Cebu where she can take care of that. At least that's where my Asawa gets all the birth certificate issues taken care of. No need to fly to Manila, she can just take the ferry to Cebu, which is next island over, and a V-hire to the City. Unless she wants to go to Manila.

Look, I'm with Hey Joe on this, you ought to at least check her out. Ask for the CENOMAR, it's not hard to get (same office). So many of these women are married from an earlier age and just don't want to admit it as most foreigners will leave. Getting "unmarried" is not for the faint of heart and takes a few years.
we was looking at both meeting at Manila as thats where my 1st flight from the UK lands and spend time with her relative that lives there (somewhere we can stay for free) to sort out her birth certificate and whilst there i will be sure that we get a CENOMAR done as well before flying back to dumaguete.

I don't think she is married due to me being able to check up on her facebook and messenger, I gave here my old phone which turns out isn't waterproof as salt water has corroded the usb port contacts and stopped it from charging so i brought it back with me, i've since used my wireless charger and been on it and taken photos of her chat logs and had the fun of putting them into google translate which included a conversation from her ex boyfriend that was on and off for 3 years until he cheated on her saying he was upset she never married him and that he still loved her but hopes i treat her better and talking about his regrets.

I kind of feel bad for doing this as i feel like i should trust her but with all the advise on here it has made me very suspicious. so far she doesn't know i have access to her account / apps on the phone because she knows i'm waiting on parts to get the usb port fixed so it can be charged by cable so she can have it back when i return soon.

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Regarding her Birth Certificate is in her "Mothers" maiden name.

That is quite common here. It's because her mother and father were not married at the time of her birth. Then the birth certificate must be in the woman's name "who gave birth to the child".

She simply has to tell them all she was born out of wedlock. Have her show the date of Mothers marriage certificate and compare to the birth certificate and if needed a notarized letter stating the circumstances. No need to travel to Manila, just another excuse for you to send more money for a not needed trip to Manila. Then she'll add a few friends or relatives to the trip as an excuse so she will be safe. (More money needed) LOL. All can be taken care of at her nearest NSO Office where she lives.

Be alert for stall tactics like the ones she's giving. They will give many to get all they can until they are busted. I'm not saying this is the case but just be aware of stall tactics.

You asked for advice, my best advice to you as it was mentioned here, have her spend 150 pesos for a CENOMAR (Certificate of non marriage) and tell her to take a picture of it or scan it along with her original birth record and email it to you. Tell her it's needed on your end to start the process.
thank you, do you know if she can do this in dumaguete?

i was going to meet her in manila but if she can do it there then she can do that before i fly back to save spending time at her relatives in manila with me when i fly over next and speed up the process of getting her passport etc.

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we was looking at both meeting at Manila as thats where my 1st flight from the UK lands and spend time with her relative that lives there (somewhere we can stay for free) to sort out her birth certificate and whilst there i will be sure that we get a CENOMAR done as well before flying back to dumaguete.

I don't think she is married due to me being able to check up on her facebook and messenger, I gave here my old phone which turns out isn't waterproof as salt water has corroded the usb port contacts and stopped it from charging so i brought it back with me, i've since used my wireless charger and been on it and taken photos of her chat logs and had the fun of putting them into google translate which included a conversation from her ex boyfriend that was on and off for 3 years until he cheated on her saying he was upset she never married him and that he still loved her but hopes i treat her better and talking about his regrets.

I kind of feel bad for doing this as i feel like i should trust her but with all the advise on here it has made me very suspicious. so far she doesn't know i have access to her account / apps on the phone because she knows i'm waiting on parts to get the usb port fixed so it can be charged by cable so she can have it back when i return soon.
They are likely texting in their Dialect, how are you able to read/understand it? If it's in English and they are communicating in English then she had/has another Foreigner Boyfriend.

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thank you, do you know if she can do this in dumaguete?

i was going to meet her in manila but if she can do it there then she can do that before i fly back to save spending time at her relatives in manila with me when i fly over next and speed up the process of getting her passport etc.
Yes, Google NSO Dumagete and you will see their websites.

What is she telling you that she needs to do regarding her birth certificate in Manila?

Regarding her lack of ID's, birth certificate. You mentioned she's in college. One has to take a college entrance exam, birth certificate, Id's to get enrolled in college same as where you are from. So she already has those or she would not be enrolled. More red flags.

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Post your questions and circumstances in the British forum as you are a Brit wanting to marry a Philippine citizen and take her to the UK.

Plenty of people on that forum will be able to tell you what you need to do with regard meeting financial requirements, relationship proof and accommodation requirements. Also how to apply.
I think Crawford hit the nail on the head, this is more a question for the Brit site as many there would have accomplished this.
Though we all wish mbeast the best of luck I and only my opinion feel he is besotted and no matter the advice and cautions simply does his own thing. Obviously on the net but appears not to do any personal research, picks and chooses info given to him on this tread, appears very naive to the goings on of someone he wants to marry.
You can lead a horse to water.

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My wife had a problem with her birth certificate, basically she did't have one. The mothrr in law took the certificate given her by the midwife and kept it instead of lodging it with the municipal hall to produce the birth certificate. We had to go to her place of birth, General Trias Cavite
to get an affidavit sign by someone who remembered her birth to get a certificate issued. Luckily the young secretary remembered the event with remarkable clarity. Also with luck my wife's family have moved to Bataan so we didn't have to fly in from Dumaguete.

Another common problem is when a birth certificate is produced they find the name they have been using all of their life is not their true name. It is common in the Philippines to change the name of a sickly child because they considder the old name to be unlucky.

Spelling mistakes are common and getting the sex changed can be a big problem, yes they do get it wrong more often than you would hope.
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I think Crawford hit the nail on the head, this is more a question for the Brit site as many there would have accomplished this.
Though we all wish mbeast the best of luck I and only my opinion feel he is besotted and no matter the advice and cautions simply does his own thing. Obviously on the net but appears not to do any personal research, picks and chooses info given to him on this tread, appears very naive to the goings on of someone he wants to marry.
You can lead a horse to water.

Cheers, Steve.
i am besotted with this woman and i really do hope for the best so plan for that but i also want to protect myself.

i guess i hope that she really is the really deal, If she is not then she is one hell of a actor.
maybe i should hire a investigator but to be honest i do not have a clue how to go about doing that from the UK and fear if she ever found out it would ruin what could be a amazing relationship.

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