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Hey_Joe 10th March 2018 11:43 PM

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Originally Posted by mbeast (Post 14147946)
at the moment she is in collage and baby sits to pay for it.
i've brought her a mobile phone but don't send her money other than to buy herself a valentines gift and flowers as i didn't know who to order from to be sure they would arrive on time and in good condition. (i have seen them and receipts that she insisted on showing me).

What city is this girl living in? Ability to pay for living expenses and College on a Yaya's salary alone is a Red Flag story.

Is she is going to college for one of the 3 or 6 month certification courses such as Culinary?

A Yaya's (babysitters) salary is not enough anywhere in The Philippines to pay for a or 2 or 4 year College Degree. Even a Maid/Yaya/Cook can't afford a 4 years college.

I highly suggest you have her checked out.

Asian Spirit 11th March 2018 01:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Hey_Joe (Post 14148650)
What city is this girl living in? Ability to pay for living expenses and College on a Yaya's salary alone is a Red Flag story.

Is she is going to college for one of the 3 or 6 month certification courses such as Culinary?

A Yaya's (babysitters) salary is not enough anywhere in The Philippines to pay for a or 2 or 4 year College Degree. Even a Maid/Yaya/Cook can't afford a 4 years college.

I highly suggest you have her checked out.

Just happened to think, the president signed into law a deal where many colleges are tuition free now. That may be what she is doing. I have a niece that is already enrolled at a college to become a teacher. Pretty cool and I think most of the books are included too.

Hey_Joe 11th March 2018 03:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Asian Spirit (Post 14148706)
Just happened to think, the president signed into law a deal where many colleges are tuition free now. That may be what she is doing. I have a niece that is already enrolled at a college to become a teacher. Pretty cool and I think most of the books are included too.

OP indicated she was attending College using YAYA wages, not RA 10931.

Hope it works out for your niece. RA 10931 is not working out for others, tuition is still being demanded.

Source:
State colleges, universities, collecting tuition, other fees despite Free Education Act - Bulatlat

Asian Spirit 11th March 2018 03:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Hey_Joe (Post 14148818)
OP indicated she was attending College using YAYA wages, not RA 10931.

Hope it works out for your niece. RA 10931 is not working out for others, tuition is still being demanded.

Source:
State colleges, universities, collecting tuition, other fees despite Free Education Act - Bulatlat

Ah,,,, okay. Now I have it. Well hope the OP does ok with this girl for sure. with so many gold diggers it can be hard to tell.

Hope also they get the tuition free education thing worked out. Will see when my niece starts in June. Thanks for the correction.

mogo51 13th March 2018 04:14 AM

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Originally Posted by JRB__NW (Post 14141826)
Oyy, I really urge caution, for your sake. You haven't shared many details about her, your age gap, where she's from, etc.. but in this country two weeks simply isn't enough time to make a decision like that. Things are often not as presented.. Of course I understand from personal experience that one gets knocked over by these beautiful, friendly and (sometimes) caring women.. but all is not always as it seems. There is no woman more efficient at extracting support than a Filipina.

Just as an example, do you know for a FACT that she is not previously married? Many Filipina's will claim to be single (and are for all practical purposes) but upon further investigation are actually previously married and since there's no divorce, the man either has to try to get her previous marriage annulled or give up bringing her back home. Or in a worse case scenario, the husband or local boyfriend is hiding in the background. Ask to see a CENOMAR (certificate of no marriage). There may also be children, whether or not she's married. I'm not trying to scare you but these things happen all the time.

As I said I have no knowledge of your situation but simply urge caution. And I wish you the best. I hope it works out.

Yes there is JRB and it is Thai women. If they were put in a race together, there would only be a short half head in the result. Good idea about asking for proof of divorce if relevant.

mogo51 13th March 2018 04:18 AM

I welcome you to the forum also. These types of posts are regular occurrences here and other similar sites.
I am married to a Filipina but took over 12 months to make the committment for all the reasons and more stated in the replies you have received to date.
Some sound advice here, I hope you take it into consideration. Otherwise you may regret it.

pigeonpete 23rd March 2018 07:26 AM

Hello Everybody, I am english lived in aussie for 47 years. Married philippino 37 years ago we have 2daughters and grandchildren. I met my wife as a pen pal ,went over to philippines after 1year for weeks then went back again after 6 months and got married. It is all a matter of luck even if you make all the investigation you like you are likely to have a failed marriage. onthe other hand you could be lucky like me, Do you feel lucky?

mbeast 11th April 2018 07:08 PM

back from a lovely few weeks in the philippines.
i'm more sure than i was my ex wife that this is the women i hope to spend the rest of my life with :)

now the pain in the A$$ part....
passport and visa to the UK sure seems hard for her to get any time soon :(

looks like it would be easier for me to fly over and then keep extending my visa every 2 months but surely there has to be a limit to this and I really don't know how long to expect it to take to get her passport sorted and then apply for a tourist visa to start with.

mbeast 11th April 2018 07:25 PM

i know it is going to take time etc but the fact that so many people have already managed to get their lady into the UK from the philippines show that it is possible.

I'm sure my lady is worth the wait but I really have no idea what to expect along the way and how best to deal with this to make this as pain free as possible.

Asian Spirit 11th April 2018 09:00 PM

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Originally Posted by mbeast (Post 14294186)
i know it is going to take time etc but the fact that so many people have already managed to get their lady into the UK from the philippines show that it is possible.

I'm sure my lady is worth the wait but I really have no idea what to expect along the way and how best to deal with this to make this as pain free as possible.

Congratulations for sure. Yes it will take time but usually not too bad. Visit with your immigration office there where you live and they should be able to give you a time frame.

In the US, a fiancee visa usually takes between 3 and 5 months to get done. In the US they look at the previous two years of income and makes no difference how long you have known each other. Mostly through letters, emails, photos together, receipts from expenses here they just want to be sure you have a true working relationship.
You might decide to move over here and stay also. Cost of living here is much lower than your home country and none of that cold fog all the time.

Again, visit or call your immigration service there to get accurate requirements and other information.

best of luck for sure..


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