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I can't agree with people saying stick with it. I just wish we had left a lot sooner than we did. There is no point in just plodding along just hoping things will get better, if you are not happy now then it is very unlikely things will get better. Most people arrive with rose tinted glasses and spend the first year deluding themselves that it is a great place to live. I can see your rose tinted glasses are well and truly off. Lucky for you as you will avoid spending all your savings hoping things will get better.
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I have not read all the replies and so apologise if I am repeating advice. The best way of meeting people is to join clubs, groups etc. You do not have to have an great interest in the subject, just go along and see what the members are about. We (I know its easier with 2) joined really diverse groups, a motorbike club, book club, MG club (still members) theatre group (Howick little theatre, recommended). It really does not matter what the subject is, there is usually a need for extra members.

Mikesurf is all about giving up, 90% of immigrants find their life here, and as for Aussies, they can be really obnoxious at times, they love taking the p**s.

The weather is getting better, hot and dry times are ahead.

One last thought, most yacht clubs have too many boats and not enough crew, I stated as portable ballast for the Friday afternoon races.

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Some things worth looking at

Meetups near Auckland - Meetup

The Auckland Friendship Group (AFG) (Auckland) - Meetup


Learn to dive :Global Dive - scuba diving training and travel - Auckland, New Zealand


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Thank you everyone for your supportive words and suggestions, it's a comfort to know that other people feel a similar way.

I don't have a problem getting out and meeting people, I'm doing that all the time and have just finished lunch with one client and I'm meeting up with colleagues this evening after work. I was on a working holiday in Australia and have done a lot of backpacking so I'm well traveled, generally I have no problems fitting in.

lorgnette, (what was deleted from your message?) you get exactly what I mean and thanks for the suggestion, unfortunately there aren't many career openings for me down south, I need to be up here where the clients are, otherwise I'd be giving that a go.

Mikesurf, I think you're right, the rose tinted glasses came off as soon as I started work, it wasn't too bad up until then. I can't abide some of the unprofessional tactics and backstabbing.

I'm probably at the stage now where i want to start putting down roots, build my career, buy somewhere nice to live and all, but I can't envisage doing that here, for all the reasons I've already given. I think I'm at the wrong stage of my life for New Zealand, this isn't where I want to spend the next 20 years, I feel like I'm up a dead end and I know I need to do something about it soon whilst I still can.

Time is ticking on, must get back to the office, catch you all later and thanks again.
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Good luck to you wherever you end up. If you don't get to Australia I can highly recommend the south of France.

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hi toni,
thanks for sharing your thought..

valuable info for me.

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yep, i felt exactly the same way Toni. Still do in a way. But what i keep thinking is the grass wasn't any greener in the UK and thats why we left. We have been here 10 months now and we have found that making friends here is a lot harder than in the UK, and there is nothing wrong with having other expats as friends. To be honest i find them easier to get along with. We moved to a little village a few weeks ago which has a nice atmosphere and we hope to make some more friends soon. Most of our work friends have children which we dont so it is a bit harder. I think most young Aucklanders left because of it being almost impossible to buy a house and earn a decent wage then us foreigners have moved in.

Summer will come, we landed in January this year and were not disappointed.

Chin up. It could be worse. Give yourself a year atleast, if your really unhappy then try out Wellington or the South Island??

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Hi Toni,

Your experience is similar to mine when I lived in Vienna, Austria. I felt the same way as you and I could not have immagined myself living there for years and years....I felt trapped , unhappy and miserable after the first year...and it did not get any better. I lasted 4 long years and dreaded the cold, really cold weather and the dark grey sky for more than 6 months a year, I felt depressed and decided to leave. I came back to Auckland because I missed the beach, the open space, the fresh salty air, the weather yes, it is much better than in Vienna, and I will never ever complain again of cold while I'll be living here.... When I left Vienna in November 2011 it was -6 ( minus 6) degrees there and I just laughed when the friends waiting for me at the airport were complaining of the windy and chilly weather of 18 degrees...it was bliss for me...
So I think it's different for everybody and everybody is different. I love many parts of New Zealand and I love Auckland and I just don't feel European anymore...I see myself happy here for the rest of my life....but that's just me ....
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I'm probably at the stage now where i want to start putting down roots, build my career, buy somewhere nice to live and all, but I can't envisage doing that here, for all the reasons I've already given. I think I'm at the wrong stage of my life for New Zealand, this isn't where I want to spend the next 20 years, I feel like I'm up a dead end and I know I need to do something about it soon whilst I still can.
It is a conundrum I know, so much effort has passed under the bridge to get here we feel compelled to give it a fair crack but the longer you stay the harder it is to get out again. I agree Auckland is largely ugly, scruffy and run down but after a time you do stop noticing how bad it really is. Same with the ugly clothes and general malaise and scruffiness of people. Although utterly depressing to consider, you will eventually begin to moderate your own expectations and find some of your own standards will sink to the same level.

Either that or you'll drive yourself mental trying to rub up against it eventually and move on. My experience places outside of Auckland aren't anymore well kept or attractive.

I have yet to figure which life stage NZ does suit, perhaps most attractive for young families with school age children and students. Its not a place for the career minded and ambitious and the idea of twenty more years here makes me shudder.

I think you know the answer already, if you are young, free and ambitious I don't know why you would choose to stay

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It is a conundrum I know, so much effort has passed under the bridge to get here we feel compelled to give it a fair crack but the longer you stay the harder it is to get out again. I agree Auckland is largely ugly, scruffy and run down but after a time you do stop noticing how bad it really is.
There are certainly some areas of Auckland that are scruffy & run down, but isn't that the same in any city? I can certainly think of some really scruffy places in London!
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Same with the ugly clothes
The shops have just the same fashions (albeit 6 months later because of the seasons) in the shops.
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and general malaise and scruffiness of people.
Isn't that up to the individual? I'd replace that with 'a much more relaxed way of dressing'. Many companies are 'business casual' - but all the places I've worked, the people dress smartly albeit more casually. Outside of work you'll see more shorts & jandals - to me, that shows that we have warmer weather (on average) to the UK.

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Although utterly depressing to consider, you will eventually begin to moderate your own expectations and find some of your own standards will sink to the same level.
I'd replace you with we - it's up to the individual what their own standards are.

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Either that or you'll drive yourself mental trying to rub up against it eventually and move on. My experience places outside of Auckland aren't anymore well kept or attractive.
It really does sound as if you have had enough of New Zealand - you are no longer seeing the beautiful places that I see.

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I have yet to figure which life stage NZ does suit, perhaps most attractive for young families with school age children and students. Its not a place for the career minded and ambitious...
Well we're certainly not a young family, and I am certainly career minded and ambitious still. I know I won't ever earn the 'megabucks' that may be available at a certain level of management in other countries, but for my current level I am earning a similar amount, and I get to live in beautiful countryside within an hour's commute from Central Auckland.
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You really do have to move on, don't you?

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