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Old 13th May 2012, 11:00 AM
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Aha ok but is it allowed to split up as a woman even if the husband doesn't want?or does he have to agree fully?
Your husband doesn't need to agree but you will need to go to court and have valid reason to get divorce.

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You are right.....because preparing a "marriage contract" means that you love and trust that person wholly and unintentionally? The man could very well, one day decide that he didn't like the food that his wife has prepared and divorce the woman, hold her and her children captive in the UAE because she agreed to hand over her passport and sign her life off to her husband.

Why is it necessary to sign a contract to allow the wife to work in the first place? It's a marriage, not a prison sentence. Just another example of the archaic way of life that some people practice.
To get married we sign a contract, and it is in that contract where each party decide if additional clauses are added or not. So it isn't a pre-marrital contract or something like that.

Adding a clause such as the husband not interfering in the wife's job could help if there is any disagreement in the future regarding this and the wife wants the divorce. The woman can easily get the divorce because the husband did not comply with the clause.

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To get married we sign a contract, and it is in that contract where each party decide if additional clauses are added or not. So it isn't a pre-marrital contract or something like that.

Adding a clause such as the husband not interfering in the wife's job could help if there is any disagreement in the future regarding this and the wife wants the divorce. The woman can easily get the divorce because the husband did not comply with the clause.
How is this contract different from a pre-marital contract?

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This is the contract we need to sign in court to get married. Thus, it's mandatory to get married. Let me put it this way, it's the document we sign at the time of the "i do". The pre marrital contract is optional.

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As per UAE law, the custody of the children is normally given to the mother, as well as the family home, and the husband is obligated to pay a monthly allowance. I don't know if you can add any clause regarding divorce because divorces are regulated by laws.
I would strongly suggest that anyone understand what they are getting into fully. No one wants to think things will not go right, but the reality is the uae has one of the highest divorce rates in the world. And the rate for expats married to emiratis is 40% higher then the dismal divorce rate of local/local marriages. And there is a reason Inshallah, the marriage will be long and prosperous...

Anyhow, this statement I find odd from someone who is actually in a local marriage. Custody of the children is normally given to the man and his family when involving a non emirati wife.... It is suppose to be up until age 7 for boys, and age nine or puberty for girls that they live with the mother, but seems that isnt followed very often. The father gets the children. They are his. If the children are not given to the dad and he agrees to let the wife have them after divorce (doesnt happen) and she stays in the uae (very few will ever allow their kids to leave the country to be raised), if at any point the wife remarries or even has a boyfriend, then the kids can not longer live with the mother and will immediatly be moved to the fathers family. When is an emirati wife, most the time it is the same family... as is cousins usually!

Western people are not going to get the contract thing. It though is how things are done in islamic marriages. This contract is to lay out what is expected of the husband and the wife. What you will receive and what he will receive. What he will do, what you will do. They are fricken ridiculous here in the uae.... And that is being very nice about it. He is marrying a non emirati... it costs him less. But in my opinion, most women are selling themselves VERY short. The local woman might be ridiculous in what they are asking, but non emirati woman are just thinking they are entering into a marriage as if in their home country. Put what you require. Put that you require to be able to go home once a year or twice a year. Put that you require to be allowed to work until you have a child. Put that you require to have your own villa and that you will not share with another wife. Put that you require your own vehicle. Put that you require a monthly allowance of xxx to spend on your own needs if you are not working. Put put put put put....

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Put what gold amount you require at the start of the marriage and put it in safe keeping. And please ask for an amount that will allow yourself to move home and/or reset up in the event of divorce as probly will happen, not maybe....




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As per UAE law, the custody of the children is normally given to the mother, as well as the family home, and the husband is obligated to pay a monthly allowance. I don't know if you can add any clause regarding divorce because divorces are regulated by laws.
Are you sure of that?

And in case of the mother being non-Muslim, i am pretty sure custody goes to the father

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Are you sure of that?

And in case of the mother being non-Muslim, i am pretty sure custody goes to the father
Well, this is what I have seen around. I know at least five cases in which the mother got the custody, remained in the family home and the father was obligated to support the children. However, I may agree with you that if the mother is non-Muslim, she may have issues with the custody.

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Well, this is what I have seen around. I know at least five cases in which the mother got the custody, remained in the family home and the father was obligated to support the children. However, I may agree with you that if the mother is non-Muslim, she may have issues with the custody.
That's a lot of divorce cases. Were they all Emirati husbands and non-Emirati wives? Besides, shouldn't the woman be converted to Islam at the time of marriage so the point of her being non-muslim doesn't really arise.

If she's non-Emirati, she will definitely have challenges with the custody issue because as Jynxgirl has pointed out, the children belong to the father. He has the final say on what can and cannot be done.

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That's a lot of divorce cases. Were they all Emirati husbands and non-Emirati wives? Besides, shouldn't the woman be converted to Islam at the time of marriage so the point of her being non-muslim doesn't really arise.

If she's non-Emirati, she will definitely have challenges with the custody issue because as Jynxgirl has pointed out, the children belong to the father. He has the final say on what can and cannot be done.
Indeed, too many cases, but isn't divorce very high in the uae...Two of them were emaraties married to foreigners (one egyptian, one french). The other ones emaraties married to emaraties.

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Your husband doesn't need to agree but you will need to go to court and have valid reason to get divorce.
Do u know if it's a valid reason to divorce him if he takes a second wife for example? Thx for your help

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