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Old 13th May 2012, 10:18 AM
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^That's a very silly clause to add, it just means you're going into the marriage with clear distrust and bad intentions...:/
You are right.....because preparing a "marriage contract" means that you love and trust that person wholly and unintentionally? The man could very well, one day decide that he didn't like the food that his wife has prepared and divorce the woman, hold her and her children captive in the UAE because she agreed to hand over her passport and sign her life off to her husband.

Why is it necessary to sign a contract to allow the wife to work in the first place? It's a marriage, not a prison sentence. Just another example of the archaic way of life that some people practice.
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Exactly like you said, it's a marriage not a prison sentence. We don't all plan on divorcing our wives if we don't like their cooking....unless they deliberately try to poison us! :P. I'm just saying, people get married because they "love and trust that person wholly"....

Besides, seriously that's a silly clause...if somebody holds your passport you can just go to the embassy and get a new one. You're not protecting yourself by "that much" by putting in a clause like that....

Just go in with a bit more faith is all I'm saying ....maybe adding a clause like him not stopping you from working or maintaining a certain standard of living etc...

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What's about adding something like the "right to split up" directly as a woman especially when he might take a second wife?or the right to travel alone?

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You can put that he cannot marry another woman whilst married to you?

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1. The right to be treated as an equal in the marriage.
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Exactly like you said, it's a marriage not a prison sentence. We don't all plan on divorcing our wives if we don't like their cooking....unless they deliberately try to poison us! :P. I'm just saying, people get married because they "love and trust that person wholly"....

Besides, seriously that's a silly clause...if somebody holds your passport you can just go to the embassy and get a new one. You're not protecting yourself by "that much" by putting in a clause like that....

Just go in with a bit more faith is all I'm saying ....maybe adding a clause like him not stopping you from working or maintaining a certain standard of living etc...
I'll tell you why it's not a silly clause. No one gets into a marriage preparing for the worst. However, speaking from experience, when I got divorced, the Emarati Lawyer that my husband hired advised him that even though we are getting divorced and I get full custody of my child, the passports stay with him. Which basically means that I would not be able to leave the country without his permission. Luckily for me, my husband and I are very close and he shot the idea down instantly. But there are plenty of people that aren't so lucky.

Like I said, if someone is silly enough to even entertain the idea of signing a contract or needs to take permission from their spouse to be able to work, then making sure that you hold on to your passport really isn't that silly at all.

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I thought the man gets the custody of the children in UAE if they get divorced?

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I thought the man gets the custody of the children in UAE if they get divorced?
I wasn't married to an Emirati but if this is the case....then put each and every clause in that contract that you can think of because if and when all hell breaks loose, that contract is the only thing that will protect the rights that you as an equal are entitled to any other place in this world.
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Aha ok but is it allowed to split up as a woman even if the husband doesn't want?or does he have to agree fully?

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I thought the man gets the custody of the children in UAE if they get divorced?
As per UAE law, the custody of the children is normally given to the mother, as well as the family home, and the husband is obligated to pay a monthly allowance. I don't know if you can add any clause regarding divorce because divorces are regulated by laws.

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