Originally Posted by Balikbayan
I have a soon to be brother in law, who has been chatting with my wife's younger sister on line for about a year, he was here last year for a 10 day visit, and he is here now for 10 days. He says he'll marry my sister in law in a couple of years. My query is his intention. My wife and her two sisters have land that thier father left them, my wife (of 16 years), and I have built a house on this land, now this soon to be brother in law is also planning to build a house here, behind our house, and without consulting with my wife or the older sister, he wants to cut trees down to access his house which by the way there is no need to, but he doesn't care, told me he's going to do it anyway. I told there's no way in hell he's cutting any trees down. I told him he can use the natural path to the building site, without cutting any trees down. Now he's not talking to me, he's secretly going to my father in law and conferring with him.
Any thoughts on this, anyone experiencing anything like this?
Hi Balikbayan and thank you for sharing your dilemma with us and candor is appreciated I don't hear that enough.
You are blessed that you live on family land and I also live on family land like you but I get reminded sometimes when I and the wife fight that I'm a nobody and I don't own anything here... She's brutally right because I've seen what happens to other family members that live with their mistress when the family member left and had enough they went over to the house and started dismantling it while she was in it LOL, another example.
With that said I'd try to get along with this expat because in the end it's both of you against the citizens here and he's also going to be a neighbor and try to relate just how hot it is here and the costs of Airconditioning if you cut down the trees and what about fruit trees. I'm just curious if the soon to be foreigner and your brother-in-law will be retired or just sending money for years and are you here for good or still working?
I only wish the best comes out of this for you and the brother-in-law, you'll find though that the father-in-law will give precedence to his favorite son and if he dies the favors will go to the Mother-in-law if she's still around.