Single man retiring in Thailand compared to other countries

[Bulgakov]

Hi,

I will retire in five years (at 55) and I am now looking for a nice warm place to stay. I am in good shape, not overweigh, not bald with a relatively good pension in five years. I was wondering how Thailand compares to other countries for a single man. I am looking for a long term relationship. I have heard many men are going to The Phillipines to meet younger women and it seems easier there than in Thailand. Is it so? How easy is it for a 50 years old man to find a nice and beautiful 30 years old woman in Thailand? The Philippines do not interest me much. I have considered South and Central America because I also speak Spanish but I find it too dangerous and the women do not seem as much available.

Thanks,

Bulgakov

[frogblogger]

No problem. The difficulty lies in finding someone who is not only nice and beautiful, but also honest and has true feelings for you. Whether you are ok for your age or not, let's not kid ourselves. The myth that Thai girls love us partly because they don't like Thai men is just that - a myth.

On the other hand, Thai women generally start to consider themselves as getting 'old' once they enter their early thirties. Especially if you are willing to take on someone who already has a child or two, early thirties, pretty without being a total stunner, you are in with a chance of a good relationship. But a twenty year age gap is quite a divide, even so.

There are quite a few discussions along these lines, here and on other forums, but the bottom line is each case is individual and someone who isn't naive, doesn't take himself too seriously, has kept himself in good nick and has enough money for a comfortable lifestyle, can find a good partner without too much trouble. Just don't rush into it - if you haven't been to Thailand before, you need to get a feel for the place first, as it were. There's nothing like a few rude awakenings and let-downs to help you to see things clearly.

[tamsin]

Right okay. So you're looking for a woman about twenty years your junior who is not only 'nice and honest, but beautiful'. So. What do you have to offer? Possibly more baht than her husband er, 'brother'. And where do you think you might hope to meet such a woman? Are you an NGO? A businessman with a chance of maybe hooking up with a co-worker not too bothered about your being as old as her father?

No. You will be hanging out in beer bars along with the rest of them. And this Nice Honest Beautiful girl 20 years your junior will not be looking at you thinking she has found her soul mate. Get real. Seriously, some of you ...

[frogblogger]

tamsin - speak for yourself! I have a great relationship thanks, we live between Thailand and France, and have a beautiful four month old daughter.

The clues are in my post - don't pick the absolute stunners, find someone in their early to mid-thirties who is considered 'old' by Thai standards, and who may have a kid/kids from a previous relationship. Being a fit-looking 50 is a factor though. And lose the naivety - the fact that you can look after them financially is important, and so what? That's part of the deal. Not that different to expectations in the West, in some circumstances.

And of course, no point leaving it unsaid. A good sex life is important with a young woman.

Some of us have what it takes, while some .....

[Bulgakov]

Originally Posted by tamsin

Right okay. So you're looking for a woman about twenty years your junior who is not only 'nice and honest, but beautiful'. So. What do you have to offer? Possibly more baht than her husband er, 'brother'. And where do you think you might hope to meet such a woman? Are you an NGO? A businessman with a chance of maybe hooking up with a co-worker not too bothered about your being as old as her father?

No. You will be hanging out in beer bars along with the rest of them. And this Nice Honest Beautiful girl 20 years your junior will not be looking at you thinking she has found her soul mate. Get real. Seriously, some of you ...

I knew I would shock some people with my idea of having a relationship with a woman 20 years younger. I don't see what is wrong. The lady is getting a nice man with more baht who does not cheat on her and I get a younger woman. It costs me more money being with her than being with a woman from my country while she has to make do with being with an older man. It is an exchange. We both get what we want while paying a price for it. Nothing is free. What is wrong with that?

Bulgakov

[singto]

Originally Posted by Bulgakov

I knew I would shock some people with my idea of having a relationship with a woman 20 years younger. I don't see what is wrong. The lady is getting a nice man with more baht who does not cheat on her and I get a younger woman. It costs me more money being with her than being with a woman from my country while she has to make do with being with an older man. It is an exchange. We both get what we want while paying a price for it. Nothing is free. What is wrong with that?

Bulgakov

Who cares what other people think??? You're the living and sleeping with the woman, not them.

Tamsin, like Frogblogger said, speak for yourself. I've been here in Thailand for fourteen years and have been married to a Thai woman for ten years.
I'm 47, she's 32. I met here when she was 21 and I was 36. Maybe I got lucky but she's stuck through our good times and bad and while at times it hasn't been easy, she doesn't stray, is a good mother to our two children, and is an educated woman with a good job by Thai standards.

That said - while I may go out with my friends to a bar once every few months, I also frequent other places that are easy to meet women. It is extremely easy - especially if you speak the language and while money is often a factor with these women, on the game or not, this is part of life - making sure you can support a woman who you're with - and she can support you.

You can meet decent Thai women through friends, at the gym, at shopping malls, coffee shops, restaurants, through business transactions - and maybe it's me since I've never had a problem meeting women anywhere in the world, but it's TOO EASY. It may come as a surprise to you Tamsin but there are even Thai women who are more than willing to have sex without asking for money as they head out the door. There are even Thai women who are willing to ask you out.

With regards to the cheating - at the very least you will be expected to be discreet should you choose to stray.

[roy]

Originally Posted by Bulgakov

I knew I would shock some people with my idea of having a relationship with a woman 20 years younger. I don't see what is wrong. The lady is getting a nice man with more baht who does not cheat on her and I get a younger woman. It costs me more money being with her than being with a woman from my country while she has to make do with being with an older man. It is an exchange. We both get what we want while paying a price for it. Nothing is free. What is wrong with that?

Bulgakov

Please don't be offended, it seems you are looking for a caregiver-wife?

[Rod007]

Originally Posted by Bulgakov

I knew I would shock some people with my idea of having a relationship with a woman 20 years younger. I don't see what is wrong. The lady is getting a nice man with more baht who does not cheat on her and I get a younger woman. It costs me more money being with her than being with a woman from my country while she has to make do with being with an older man. It is an exchange. We both get what we want while paying a price for it. Nothing is free. What is wrong with that?

Bulgakov

You didn't shock me at all. In fact I would have been shocked if you'd said you fancied women of your age I am a bit older than you and I would not even look at women who are older than 25 - they're just not attractive to me look at actors like Clint Eastwood, he only became attractive when he was in his 50's, Charles Bronson was another one who married the lovely Jill Ireland who was a lot younger than him. Anthony Queen was another one and the list goes on ...

I also don't see anything wrong for older women to have younger partners - in fact this seems very natural to me

[tamsin]

Originally Posted by Rod007

You didn't shock me at all. In fact I would have been shocked if you'd said you fancied women of your age I am a bit older than you and I would not even look at women who are older than 25 - they're just not attractive to me look at actors like Clint Eastwood, he only became attractive when he was in his 50's, Charles Bronson was another one who married the lovely Jill Ireland who was a lot younger than him. Anthony Queen was another one and the list goes on ...

I also don't see anything wrong for older women to have younger partners - in fact this seems very natural to me

Ah that old chestnut. Clint Eastwood, Charles Bronson and Anthony QUINN were - wait for it .... CHARISMATIC FAMOUS WEALTHY MOVIE STARS. Who the hell are you?! Some old geezer with a pension!

By the way, not shocked, just yawnnnnnn ...

[Rod007]

Originally Posted by tamsin

Ah that old chestnut. Clint Eastwood, Charles Bronson and Anthony QUINN were - wait for it .... CHARISMATIC FAMOUS WEALTHY MOVIE STARS. Who the hell are you?! Some old geezer with a pension!

By the way, not shocked, just yawnnnnnn ...

With me about none of those guys would stand a chance