we're sorted for now ??????

[jojo]

I've been a bit preoccupied and quiet on the forum since the weekend as we were having a major family crisis/discussion/war/rows, tears - all our issues came to a head! My 12yo daughter went back to the UK and returned to Spain kicking and screaming cos she wanted to stay in the UK! Also we'd come to a decision that the school fees were too much for us to handle and my husband was finding the travelling to Spain and his work load in the UK too much (he's never settled in Spain)

So should we go back to the UK, should we take the kids out of international, should we split the family and OH and daughter live in the UK and my son and I stay in Spain?? We've literally been arguing, crying, talking, pulling our hair out all weekend!


Anyway, the final decision has been made and my daughter IS now going to a state school!! Tomorrow will be her first day! The school wasnt easy to get into as we dont live in the catchment area. It looks to me like a really nice school its an IES school and is clean, modern and in a nice area!! She's sitting here now terrified, but happy! We've decided that she's gonna give it til next June and if she finds it too difficult and isnt happy,, then we go back to the UK, which is her real preference!

Jo xxx

[Pesky Wesky]

Originally Posted by jojo

I've been a bit preoccupied and quiet on the forum since the weekend as we were having a major family crisis/discussion/war/rows, tears - all our issues came to a head! My 12yo daughter went back to the UK and returned to Spain kicking and screaming cos she wanted to stay in the UK! Also we'd come to a decision that the school fees were too much for us to handle and my husband was finding the travelling to Spain and his work load in the UK too much (he's never settled in Spain)

So should we go back to the UK, should we take the kids out of international, should we split the family and OH and daughter live in the UK and my son and I stay in Spain?? We've literally been arguing, crying, talking, pulling our hair out all weekend!


Anyway, the final decision has been made and my daughter IS now going to a state school!! Tomorrow will be her first day! The school wasnt easy to get into as we dont live in the catchment area. It looks to me like a really nice school its an IES school and is clean, modern and in a nice area!! She's sitting here now terrified, but happy! We've decided that she's gonna give it til next June and if she finds it too difficult and isnt happy,, then we go back to the UK, which is her real preference!

Jo xxx

Jo, I'm so glad to hear that you're not going back. Your daughter obviously takes after you cos she's got determination and she's giving it her best go, so well done to her.
Of course she's terrified - I would be!! But really, not all schools have to be like the one she went to before. My daughter is very happy at her secondary school and the teachers are pretty nice too so it can all work out, and it's certainly not too late in the year for her to join in and make friends although of course it may take time.
Wishing you all the best,
Hope that this time everything will work out
PW

[jojo]

Originally Posted by Pesky Wesky

Jo, I'm so glad to hear that you're not going back. Your daughter obviously takes after you cos she's got determination and she's giving it her best go, so well done to her.
Of course she's terrified - I would be!! But really, not all schools have to be like the one she went to before. My daughter is very happy at her secondary school and the teachers are pretty nice too so it can all work out, and it's certainly not too late in the year for her to join in and make friends although of course it may take time.
Wishing you all the best,
Hope that this time everything will work out
PW

Thanks PW, the scary thing is, the state school starts at 8.15!!! EEEEKKK!!! I'm used to a 9.30 start at the international!!!

Jo xxx

[Tallulah]

Originally Posted by jojo

Thanks PW, the scary thing is, the state school starts at 8.15!!! EEEEKKK!!! I'm used to a 9.30 start at the international!!!

Jo xxx

I know we've had a chat about this before Jo , but I just wanted to say all the best to Ruby for her starting at the new school tomorrow. I know girls of that age are extremely determined and stubborn (where do they get it from?!?) but I'm hopeful that this will be the right (and hopefully final) move for her...just get into discussions pdq with the teachers (esp. apoyo teachers) and see what they can offer Ruby as support to get her settled. If she knows she's got until next summer, she may hold you over a barrel....but hopefully it won't come to that??? Really hoping it all works out for all of you.

Tally.xxx

[Caz.I]

Originally Posted by jojo

Thanks PW, the scary thing is, the state school starts at 8.15!!! EEEEKKK!!! I'm used to a 9.30 start at the international!!!

Jo xxx

Glad she managed to get a place, and hope it works out for her. Good luck to the both of you.

Caz.I

[maxd]

For god sake go back to the UK! Never see your husband, your daughter wants to be in the UK. If your husband was there then ok, but it seems insanity for "your dreams".

What are you doing! Everyone else will tell you to hang in there, it will get better but it all seems a bit unstable to me. The sacrafices someone will do for a bit of sunshine eh?

[Pesky Wesky]

Originally Posted by maxd

For god sake go back to the UK! Never see your husband, your daughter wants to be in the UK. If your husband was there then ok, but it seems insanity for "your dreams".

What are you doing!

Ignoring you I hope!!

[Xose]

Originally Posted by maxd

For god sake go back to the UK! Never see your husband, your daughter wants to be in the UK. If your husband was there then ok, but it seems insanity for "your dreams".

What are you doing! Everyone else will tell you to hang in there, it will get better but it all seems a bit unstable to me. The sacrafices someone will do for a bit of sunshine eh?

You really have an eye for the detail don't you? - In all matters it would appear.

JoJo has another child with a year left of secondary education here in Spain. A small concideration for you perhaps, but quite a major one for adults.

Xose

[jojo]

Originally Posted by maxd

For god sake go back to the UK! Never see your husband, your daughter wants to be in the UK. If your husband was there then ok, but it seems insanity for "your dreams".

What are you doing! Everyone else will tell you to hang in there, it will get better but it all seems a bit unstable to me. The sacrafices someone will do for a bit of sunshine eh?

When you write advise (which I wasnt actually asking for), you should understand the whole story and its very obvious you dont. This is what we as a family have been discussing - We need to make informed choices and not listen to those who havent a clue about our circumstances and issues!

One example of what I mean is our three dogs wouldnt be able to go back until May at the earliest due to having to wait the statatory 6 months for their passports. I'm not sure my kids or the family could live with the idea of leaving 3 very precious family pets who have been with us since they were puppies in the UK and are now 9 years old! - thats one very simple problem, altho we have discussed having them "put down"! trust me, there are several other issues

Jo

[XTreme]

Glad you've got a solution for the moment Jo,

My take on this is that your daughter is not old enough to make an informed decision on where her life is going to be better.

We know the answer to that.....and it's a no brainer.....so you have to make the decision for her.

An International School is not the answer.....you're paying a small fortune for it.....plus you're sending out a message that you don't want to live in the same way as the Spanish. Effectively, you're creating a divide.

Now if she had a nice horse it would turn her life round here.....she'd have a real tie to Spain, she'd have a great interest and a reson to be here, and make her loads of new friends.

Remember....I can get you a deal from Horses Andalucia.....this is where we keep the horse and donkey.