Me being very serious for once please read and help if u can

[jkchawner]

ok i no it's a one off but yes i have a very serious subject that i need help with. so can you all put your thinking cap's on please and see what help you can give all help would be great.
ok i won't bore you with all the detail's but to cut a long story short i have a great freind who was diagnosed with terminal cancer. who has been to hell and back with cancer after countless op's and chemo etc it look's as if the fight is lost and it's only a matter of time.
he is on his last shot at chemo now and thing's are not looking good at all. and im the one he confides in even before his wife which is a hard thing to go through alone trust me.
now what im trying to do is to give him a great day out whilst he still is mobile etc his love in life the same as me is formula 1 racing and i do no that the team's etc do get involved and like to do as much as they can for people like my freind day's out meet the driver's etc etc
my question is how would u go about trying to arrange this ?
it would make his day so much and it's something i really want to arrange for him as way of saying thank you for are freindship and the great fight he has put up and still is to this day.
please if u can help in anyway i would be in debt to you even if it points me in the right direction as i fear i do not have long to get this arranged now
regards shaun

[scharlack]

Originally Posted by jkchawner

ok i no it's a one off but yes i have a very serious subject that i need help with. so can you all put your thinking cap's on please and see what help you can give all help would be great.
ok i won't bore you with all the detail's but to cut a long story short i have a great freind who was diagnosed with terminal cancer. who has been to hell and back with cancer after countless op's and chemo etc it look's as if the fight is lost and it's only a matter of time.
he is on his last shot at chemo now and thing's are not looking good at all. and im the one he confides in even before his wife which is a hard thing to go through alone trust me.
now what im trying to do is to give him a great day out whilst he still is mobile etc his love in life the same as me is formula 1 racing and i do no that the team's etc do get involved and like to do as much as they can for people like my freind day's out meet the driver's etc etc
my question is how would u go about trying to arrange this ?
it would make his day so much and it's something i really want to arrange for him as way of saying thank you for are freindship and the great fight he has put up and still is to this day.
please if u can help in anyway i would be in debt to you even if it points me in the right direction as i fear i do not have long to get this arranged now
regards shaun

Hello Shaun,

This is very hard... and I feel sorry for your friend and yourself...

My idea would be spend as much time as possible with him and his family. I am sure they will appreciate it.

You said your are both into F1 Racing. If you fancy doing something special then I would say (not sure under what financial conditions you both are but, if possible) I would try to spend a day at the McLaren site in Wokingham (I believe it is in Wokingham) and possibly try to make it to a race with him.... although the European season is over and Brazil, Japan, Singapore or Abu Dhabi would all result in great costs...

I guess I would just be myself and be around more if possible. At the end of the day I guess he's always appreciated your friendship because of what you've always been: yourself. Enjoy simple things together such as a sunset, a cold beer, good music, a nice walk out, etc ...

The best things in life are free.

Remember: the game isn't over. Do not let him give up!

I wish you and your friend all the best.

Cheers!

[Hombre]

Hi Shaun,
Your post really moved me and I truly feel for both of you. I think it is amazing what you are trying to achieve on behalf of your friend. I cannot pretend to be able to help you...I have no connection to F1, other than being a fan, so I cannot make a contribution. I just wanted to express my admiration for you and your friend and wish you both all the best.

[jkchawner]

Originally Posted by scharlack

Hello Shaun,

This is very hard... and I feel sorry for your friend and yourself...

My idea would be spend as much time as possible with him and his family. I am sure they will appreciate it.

You said your are both into F1 Racing. If you fancy doing something special then I would say (not sure under what financial conditions you both are but, if possible) I would try to spend a day at the McLaren site in Wokingham (I believe it is in Wokingham) and possibly try to make it to a race with him.... although the European season is over and Brazil, Japan, Singapore or Abu Dhabi would all result in great costs...

I guess I would just be myself and be around more if possible. At the end of the day I guess he's always appreciated your friendship because of what you've always been: yourself. Enjoy simple things together such as a sunset, a cold beer, good music, a nice walk out, etc ...

The best things in life are free.

Remember: the game isn't over. Do not let him give up!

I wish you and your friend all the best.

Cheers!

thank's for that
he has just come back from a boating trip with his oh on the norfolk broad's and has really enjoyed every min of it.
god what i would give to get him to an actual race but he cannot travel more than 100 mile from nottingham queens medical centre due to the cemo he is on i no he broke the rules on the broads by about 40 mile but a bit harder to explain if the sh*t hits the fan and your in singapore lol
even a practise day at silverstone anything were he would get to feel the real f1 and meet people i no because we have both spoke about it when he was well that he would enjoy it so much.
i have just emailed mclaren from there website i will let u no the outcome.
would be great to be able to do it then post pic's on here
i think silverstone is to far away to be honest but he is a fighter who no's fingers crossed

[jkchawner]

Originally Posted by Hombre

Hi Shaun,
Your post really moved me and I truly feel for both of you. I think it is amazing what you are trying to achieve on behalf of your friend. I cannot pretend to be able to help you...I have no connection to F1, other than being a fan, so I cannot make a contribution. I just wanted to express my admiration for you and your friend and wish you both all the best.

thank's hombre it would make what little time he has left so good and create a great memory for me one to really treasure

[Pesky Wesky]

Originally Posted by jkchawner

ok i no it's a one off but yes i have a very serious subject that i need help with. so can you all put your thinking cap's on please and see what help you can give all help would be great.

now what im trying to do is to give him a great day out whilst he still is mobile etc his love in life the same as me is formula 1 racing and i do no that the team's etc do get involved and like to do as much as they can for people like my freind day's out meet the driver's etc etc
my question is how would u go about trying to arrange this ?
it would make his day so much and it's something i really want to arrange for him as way of saying thank you for are freindship and the great fight he has put up and still is to this day.

Hello,
Certainly a more serious subject than we usually deal with here.
It's so hard to see the people you love suffer; I know you'll be suffering too. It's great that you want to try this last special day together, so let's see...

Pulling at straws here, are there any of those "Jim'll fix it" type programmes on telly at the moment??
Local cancer charities?
Hospices?
Here's a link for silverstone. Too far away??
www.silverstone-circuit.co.uk

WHS have these "experience" gift cards. Like a book voucher, but you buy an experience, and they have driving experiences. If the right experience isn't there you could get in touch with the company directly and see what they can come up with.
Driving | WHSmith.co.uk

Good luck with this, but don't forget that just being there and listening and being a friend really is the the best gift, and you've already given that.
PW

[Caz.I]

Originally Posted by jkchawner

ok i no it's a one off but yes i have a very serious subject that i need help with. so can you all put your thinking cap's on please and see what help you can give all help would be great.
ok i won't bore you with all the detail's but to cut a long story short i have a great freind who was diagnosed with terminal cancer. who has been to hell and back with cancer after countless op's and chemo etc it look's as if the fight is lost and it's only a matter of time.
he is on his last shot at chemo now and thing's are not looking good at all. and im the one he confides in even before his wife which is a hard thing to go through alone trust me.
now what im trying to do is to give him a great day out whilst he still is mobile etc his love in life the same as me is formula 1 racing and i do no that the team's etc do get involved and like to do as much as they can for people like my freind day's out meet the driver's etc etc
my question is how would u go about trying to arrange this ?
it would make his day so much and it's something i really want to arrange for him as way of saying thank you for are freindship and the great fight he has put up and still is to this day.
please if u can help in anyway i would be in debt to you even if it points me in the right direction as i fear i do not have long to get this arranged now
regards shaun

Hi Shaun,

Thats a fantastic thing you are doing for your friend, I am sure he will treasure it. Have a look on lastminute.com and click on 'experiences', they have something called "Silverstone Ferrari thrill" that you could maybe arrange.
Best of luck,
Caz.I

[jojo]

I'm sick to death of Cancer, a friend recently died from it leaving a wife and two young kids, I have numerous other friends who are either suffering or in remission, it seems nearly every day I hear of someone who has it, dying from it, both my parents died from it, all my aunts and uncles have died from it..... I'm considered "high risk" cos of my family history...

When are they gonna stop pussy-footing around with half heartedly (IMO) trying to find a cure and start to seriously work out whats causing this "epidemic" and try to prevent it!!!! Maybe if the research and pharmaceutical industry werent making such huge profits, things might actually happen!!.. and they make all this fuss about swine flu FFS!!!!!

Sorry Shawn and everybody, rant over, but the big "C" is a real issue for me cos of my family I guess.

I really admire what you're doing tho mate

Jo xx

[mrypg9]

Originally Posted by jojo

I'm sick to death of Cancer, a friend recently died from it leaving a wife and two young kids, I have numerous other friends who are either suffering or in remission, it seems nearly every day I hear of someone who has it, dying from it, both my parents died from it, all my aunts and uncles have died from it..... I'm considered "high risk" cos of my family history...

When are they gonna stop pussy-footing around with half heartedly (IMO) trying to find a cure and start to seriously work out whats causing this "epidemic" and try to prevent it!!!! Maybe if the research and pharmaceutical industry werent making such huge profits, things might actually happen!!.. and they make all this fuss about swine flu FFS!!!!!

Sorry Shawn and everybody, rant over, but the big "C" is a real issue for me cos of my family I guess.

I really admire what you're doing tho mate

Jo xx

I understand your feelings as my partner's mother, who last year survived surgery for bowel cancer and radiotherapy for lung cancer and who we thought had won the battle has been diagnosed with secondary brain tumours. This is especially difficult as it involves frequent trips to the UK and every time when leaving there are thoughts this could be the last time......
But cancer as such isn't really an epidemic. Life-style choices, the most obvious and well-known being smoking,excessive consumption of alcohol and poor diet, excessive exposure to UV, are a contributing factor in many cancers.
There's also the fact that increasing life expectancy exposes us to diseases such as cancer. After all, if you hoped to live to sixty at the most a hundred years ago, you would be more likely to be carried off by illnesses that are easily cureable nowadays.
A lot of research is being done and advances in practical treatments and therapies are being achieved and survival rates for some cancers, breast cancer being the most notable, are increasing rapidly.
But the most drastic reduction in the incidence of cancer would be achieved not by spending more money on research but by all of us examining our life styles -all the smokers, drinkers, excessive sunbathers, consumers of Big Macs etc etc desisting from or cutting down on these dangerous habits.
And as someone who is guilty of many although not all of these, I know what a difficult job that will be, persuading us to do that.

[jojo]

Originally Posted by mrypg9

I understand your feelings as my partner's mother, who last year survived surgery for bowel cancer and radiotherapy for lung cancer and who we thought had won the battle has been diagnosed with secondary brain tumours. This is especially difficult as it involves frequent trips to the UK and every time when leaving there are thoughts this could be the last time......
But cancer as such isn't really an epidemic. Life-style choices, the most obvious and well-known being smoking,excessive consumption of alcohol and poor diet, excessive exposure to UV, are a contributing factor in many cancers.
There's also the fact that increasing life expectancy exposes us to diseases such as cancer. After all, if you hoped to live to sixty at the most a hundred years ago, you would be more likely to be carried off by illnesses that are easily cureable nowadays.
A lot of research is being done and advances in practical treatments and therapies are being achieved and survival rates for some cancers, breast cancer being the most notable, are increasing rapidly.
But the most drastic reduction in the incidence of cancer would be achieved not by spending more money on research but by all of us examining our life styles -all the smokers, drinkers, excessive sunbathers, consumers of Big Macs etc etc desisting from or cutting down on these dangerous habits.
And as someone who is guilty of many although not all of these, I know what a difficult job that will be, persuading us to do that.

I totally disagree I'm afraid (nowt personal). Smoking and the sunshine has been with us long before the cancer epidemic! If it was simply the elderly getting cancer then yes, you could blame it on our new found longevity, poor diet?? too much food more like!

My theory is that its more to do with processed foods (yes Mcdonalds and the like), food additives, preservatives, colourants..., even farmed livestock is injected with numerous chemicals before they are slaughtered. SUGAR, there is far too much of it in our diets, and chemicals in the air, fumes from vehicles, factories, powerplants, insectacides.....

I know its only anecdotal, but out of my fathers 9 siblings, they all died from bowel cancer between the ages of 50 and 60 (including my dad), none of them smoked, ACCEPT for one aunt, the only smoker (she smoked from the age of 9, a wayward little thing apparently!!), she lived to be 98, was fit and healthy til the end and died suddenly from a stroke! Apart from smoking, the only other difference is that my aunt DIDNT work in the local cement factory, in fact she worked outside... in the sun, oh and didnt have kids (hhhmm ??)

BTW, I'm not saying that smoking is good, I'm not, I just dont think it is the root of all evil as it is portrayed. I certainly dont see a correlation between the number of smokers and the number of deaths.

Anyway, all this aside, cancer is most definately on the increase and is rapidly becoming out of control. And I think there is too much "big business" involved to enable them to ever prevent it or cure it!!


Jo xxx