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Sadly, telling someone who has clinic depression to 'have strong will power' or 'snap out of it' is like telling a disabled person to go and walk, or telling a blind man to start seeing. Is not a matter of will power. Depression is a real illness and while natural remedies may work for some people, they are not the answer for everyone. Some people really need the *right* medication (I emphasize right because as you are aware doctors not always prescribe the right one) to keep the person alive and well (and no I am not dramatizing, this is a fact) and give a kick start to their recovery or at least normalize them so they can face the problem and get their health back on track. While I agree that many doctors are too quick to prescribe anti depressants when is not needed, I also know of cases where the person did not want to take AD's but did not get better until they finally did. There are different levels of depression and some of the very serious ones (especially if accompanied of other disorders) will not respond to herbal remedies alone. Trust me on this one.
Thank you for the response, you are right.I sometime forget that this is an illness and take it personally. Thanks for reminding me on this. If you dont mind telling me, are u taking anti dep yourself?

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Nour,

Is your x still holding down a job? Do you work?

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Hi Taunted,

Yes he is with an oil company and been flying everywhere and very busy. I dont know about his work performance because he has completely disconnected himself from me, no contacts whatsoever.

I am currently working in Dubai but staying with my cousin at the moment until I know where to go next.

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So if he's still working maybe he isn't that depressed and he just isn't into you anymore?

Don't blame the meds, look in the mirror.

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So if he's still working maybe he isn't that depressed and he just isn't into you anymore?

Don't blame the meds, look in the mirror.
I thought of that too but i find it interesting that he told me that he would die without having me around and said that i was the love of his life /his soulmate etc just 2 weeks befor ehe divorced me and I did check his emails after he said he wanted to separate from me and a week before he started on Cymbalta, he wrote to his friends that he was so lucky to have me as his wife etc..

Its just too sudden for him to lose all his feelings towards me.

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Well I will say that his job won't be helping him in the slightest! Travelling all over the place, erratic hours etc. People with these problems, need stability, routine and support and lots of it. If he's constantly on the go, he's not getting the time to deal with himself and face his issues, it's a way to bury them.

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Thank you for the response, you are right.I sometime forget that this is an illness and take it personally. Thanks for reminding me on this. If you dont mind telling me, are u taking anti dep yourself?
No but someone close to me does.

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I thought of that too but i find it interesting that he told me that he would die without having me around and said that i was the love of his life /his soulmate etc just 2 weeks befor ehe divorced me and I did check his emails after he said he wanted to separate from me and a week before he started on Cymbalta, he wrote to his friends that he was so lucky to have me as his wife etc..

Its just too sudden for him to lose all his feelings towards me.
I understand where you're coming from. What concerns me is that you read his e-mails - why do you do that? If my partner did that they would be out of the door.

As I said, if he's still holding down a decent job, then maybe, just maybe, he wasn't happy with his personal life and decided to do something about it.

You're blaming the meds, maybe they aren't the root cause.

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Wow, well done to you and im very happy for u-God bless you and i wish my X husband could follow your steps . I tried telling him to have strong will power and get off the meds and start taking natural remedies and he told me he would choose the drugs to me and his family - the 2 groups of people that he was so scared to lose earlier.

Thank you again and keep us posted with your haps.
I hope he decides to try these methods. It would help to know what the reason behind his depression is too. Knowing that is critical. Well I have gotten over depression many times using the methods as described and the credit goes to other men and women who found those cures and informed me of them. "keep us posted with your haps" I went to the park today just to relax and got hit so hard by a football that I now have a concussion. I am not depressed but severally worried and wondering if I will be normal again. Unable to concentrate/focus as well as I usually do. So everyone who is depressed is at least one step above me. At least they can get back to normal using those methods. And I hope they do.

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@ Nour i am so sorry you are dealing with such heartache! And you too EU-US, I guess I am surprised that the shrink didn't involve you both in their process and ask you to journal any changes good or bad for efficacy of the meds! Why drs especially in psychology and psychiatry don't involve family that they live with ie spouse, kids... because it affects them too. It would make sense to involve spouses, they know.

I wish you both the best!
I am sorry for both of your losses.

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