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Jealousy & Personal Safety

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#1 ·
...and you can always carry a nice heavy coke bottle as well...hahaha...
Another item is a nice sturdy ball pen in your pocket, never leave home without it!

A friend of mine got jumped in Chicago and that might have saved his life.
 
#2 ·
My wife is exactly the same as all the other Filipina spouses mentioned here. I know how to get just about anywhere here in General Trias, and in most cases, I would feel fairly safe, if I were to go out alone, however, my wife doesn't agree with that at all. There are certain parts of Gen. Trias that even she won't go do and you can bet I won't go there either, even with her by my side. Our regular tricycle driver won't even take me anywhere, even if I ask him to without Nila being with me. Only twice did I ever go out without Nila and that was with friends who were with me. Boy did Nila get upset, she read me the riot act. It was just a simple thing that we did, the first time I really didn't like going out because I felt guilty because Nila wasn't with us. The first time, I was with a Dutch ExPat and our neighbor who was a Filipino. We went to a night club. When I got home, I got the Drill Sergeant treatment. The second time I went out, and it was just into the next barangay, I went with our friends who is a Canadian ExPat, his wife and little girl. We were away for less than an hour and still I got a good chewing for it. In fact, right now, our driver won't leave the subdivision without Nila with me. No exceptions.

I am sure that there are safe places where one could go in Cebu City bit still, it is a better choice to just have your wife/girl friend go with out, it will keep any anxiety at a bare minimum.
Sometimes I think that my own wife is more paranoid about me getting Shanghaied (stolen) by some of the shady ladies around here, than she is about me getting knocked over the head and robbed. You may have noticed that anytime you're alone by yourself at the mall, that some lady (or ladies) will come up to you and ask if you're alone. These girls are just like professional big game hunters, and they know how to pick out their prey. There's probably a few stories of naive expat husbands being taken away by such girls. Some of these girls are probably very good hunters, and some of them may not be very nice also. I think that they just don't want any strange women talking to us that's all. I'm well past the point where someone can lure me away with strange candy.
 
#3 ·
I agree Maxx62...the Filipina ladies do seem to have an aire of paranoia that I am sure is not completely without cause in some cases but a relationship is all about commitment and there is NO woman on earth who can steal a man away from his girlfriend, wife or fiancée unless he is not really committed to his current relationship to begin with.

If we are totally committed to the one we love, there is no reason for any level of paranoia from our significant other. Sometimes they tend to categorize foreign men in general as playboys but I have neither the will or the energy to play such tactless games with someone's heart. I do however enjoy the level of concern that my fiancée has for me because she has enlightened me to several situations that could have been "unsafe" for me had she not been with me...and I do appreciate her so much!

I may pay all the bills and provide for all of our current and future needs financially but she provides so much more in my life including my safety and well being while living in a foreign country and I truly appreciate her for that. The truth is...if she will comfortably go somewhere with me without concern, then I am also comfortable being there and have never had any unsafe situations unfold during any trips to the Philippines.

And as pointed out by others in this thread...there are far worse and more dangerous places on this planet. You won't find me in some places of south Miami or Chicago after dark, I would much rather be in the Philippines than many big cities in the US as far as safety is concerned!
 
#7 ·
My wife is exactly the same as all the other Filipina spouses mentioned here. I know how to get just about anywhere here in General Trias, and in most cases, I would feel fairly safe, if I were to go out alone, however, my wife doesn't agree with that at all. ......
Just got to ask:

Is her concern for your safety or for the fact that there are other Filipina women out there looking for a western man.

Filipina women can be very jealous and unsecure.
 
#8 ·
Jealousy



My wife takes very good physical care of me as I am up in years and not in very good health. She always has been concerned about me, even before we met face to face. She always tells me that I'm guapa [handsome] and she doesn't like other females, especially those that neither she nor I know, walking up to me and start talking.

I know that most Filipinas, when they see a Western man, their eyes start rolling $$$$$. A true, honest and decent Filipina is usually very frugal and not materialistic. The want a man who takes good care of them and is a good provider, especially if they start a family. A lot of the scammers look at any Foreigner as a chance to make $$$$$.
 
#18 ·
My Asawa has come a long way... She used to wake up and kick me for something she saw in her DREAM!
Ha... used to say its not safe to go to the corner sari-sari alone! She would send her 13 y/o nephew with me. Sheesh...i just wanted to buy a Coke...

I often wondered if he was there to protect me.... or assure I didn't flirt with someone.

I'm happy to report...i am permitted to walk to the corner alone! (just can't cross the street!) haha
 
#23 ·
I guess I lucked out in the jealous department. Maline has never been jealous, probably because she worked for me when I was single and traveling Leyte....Its funny, after I broke up with my x I traveled all over Leyte by my self, never worried about getting attacked or mugged. Now she knows my messing around days are over, finally found what I was looking for. I could have never married someone who was jealous or suffered fits of tampo...most of the big game hunters leave me alone either cause Im old and ugly or they know I dont stray...Occasionally I go to a couple of the bikini bars here...with my wifes permission ...the girls there will talk to me but they know when its closing time...Im headed for the house.....
 
#24 ·
this thread is interesting and amusing. I live in So Calif with my Pinay GF who has been in the USA for 10 years; she is an RN. We are considering moving to Davao where she owns a home for retirement. SImilar to posts in this thread, she is both extremely attentive and caring, and also VERY jealous, already warning me that i will be a target, even when wee go to a local Phil party or dance club she notices if i "look". I spend a lot of time NOT LOOKING but i have great peripheral vision. But the point is if you find the right Pinay they are worth many fold any support you may provide. I only have dated asian women for a few years before meeting her, and hands down i love Pinay's and her. good luck
 
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