Wait your turn!

[Gene and Viol]

WAIT YOUR TURN


We have all heard about and maybe even had to deal with a case of road rage in our home county at one time or another. But what about the surprise and angry feelings one experiences when someone deliberately cuts in front of you at a check out line at the grocery store, bank or other place of business? Add to this that it happens on a day you are in no mood to be screwed with. Do you say something or just let it go?

Where I come from in Southern California, if that happens the offender is very quickly told about it and at the same time told in a very stern way where the end of the line is.

After quite a few years of living in the Philippines now I have seen this many times over the years. It has happened to me a few times as well with nothing said about it by me at the time.
I have always figured its because of lack of education maybe and they just don’t know any better. So I have always let it slide and have not said anything to an offender. That is until the other day…

I had gone to a local pharmacy to get something for a headache I had that was bad enough to make even child birth seem like a pleasant alternative. After waiting MY turn in line and finally at the counter and ready to be waited on, a Filipino woman in her mid 30’s that looked like a wrestler from the Friday Night Smack Down show on TV pushed her way in front of me and tried to place her order.

Well, feeling as bad as I did and needing to tend the headache and get out of the heat anyway, I had finally had enough and gave this woman an education in “good manners and right conduct” as they would say in the school system here.

I tapped this woman on the shoulder and told her “I had to wait my turn in line and you will do the same.” And pointing far behind me told her “the line starts back there!!!”

With a look that could kill and saying a few angry words in her native language that I could not understand, she turned and took her place at the end of the line.

Maybe this woman really didn’t know any better. But judging from her reaction I would assume that she was use to doing anything she pleased wherever she goes and most likely getting away with it. But not on this day.

I guess the point is that even as a guest in a foreign country, geographic location on the earth does not change right and wrong or excuse bad manners and behavior.
And there comes a point when it really is okay to speak up for your own rights…

[hgrego115]

Hi,

I recently joined this post and have enjoyed reading here. I notice that you answer a lot of the questions on here. I have been married to my Filipina wife for 7 years now. We live in Florida. I have a law enforcement pension, and we really want to move there. We have to wait until my 15 year old daughter hits the road at 18 so we have three years to go. It doesn't stop me from dreaming.
Her family is in Tarlac. We have considered moving there or perhaps somewhere else close to that area. We want to be about an hour away from her family. I'm just thinking of the many knocks on the door that might come if we were closer if you know what I mean. We will be visiting there next year. It will be my first visit. I met my wife in Hong Kong. We have tried to look for house to rent on the internet, but they don't have very much information on them. Do you think it is better to rent at first? I know that I can't own property, but she can.
I guess I was just curious to know some nice areas that we can visit while we are there next year in preperation for our move. I would love to correspond with you. Thanks in advance.

Greg and Yanie in Florida.

Originally Posted by Gene and Viol

WAIT YOUR TURN


We have all heard about and maybe even had to deal with a case of road rage in our home county at one time or another. But what about the surprise and angry feelings one experiences when someone deliberately cuts in front of you at a check out line at the grocery store, bank or other place of business? Add to this that it happens on a day you are in no mood to be screwed with. Do you say something or just let it go?

Where I come from in Southern California, if that happens the offender is very quickly told about it and at the same time told in a very stern way where the end of the line is.

After quite a few years of living in the Philippines now I have seen this many times over the years. It has happened to me a few times as well with nothing said about it by me at the time.
I have always figured its because of lack of education maybe and they just don’t know any better. So I have always let it slide and have not said anything to an offender. That is until the other day…

I had gone to a local pharmacy to get something for a headache I had that was bad enough to make even child birth seem like a pleasant alternative. After waiting MY turn in line and finally at the counter and ready to be waited on, a Filipino woman in her mid 30’s that looked like a wrestler from the Friday Night Smack Down show on TV pushed her way in front of me and tried to place her order.

Well, feeling as bad as I did and needing to tend the headache and get out of the heat anyway, I had finally had enough and gave this woman an education in “good manners and right conduct” as they would say in the school system here.

I tapped this woman on the shoulder and told her “I had to wait my turn in line and you will do the same.” And pointing far behind me told her “the line starts back there!!!”

With a look that could kill and saying a few angry words in her native language that I could not understand, she turned and took her place at the end of the line.

Maybe this woman really didn’t know any better. But judging from her reaction I would assume that she was use to doing anything she pleased wherever she goes and most likely getting away with it. But not on this day.

I guess the point is that even as a guest in a foreign country, geographic location on the earth does not change right and wrong or excuse bad manners and behavior.
And there comes a point when it really is okay to speak up for your own rights…

[Gene and Viol]

Originally Posted by hgrego115

Hi,

I recently joined this post and have enjoyed reading here. I notice that you answer a lot of the questions on here. I have been married to my Filipina wife for 7 years now. We live in Florida. I have a law enforcement pension, and we really want to move there. We have to wait until my 15 year old daughter hits the road at 18 so we have three years to go. It doesn't stop me from dreaming.
Her family is in Tarlac. We have considered moving there or perhaps somewhere else close to that area. We want to be about an hour away from her family. I'm just thinking of the many knocks on the door that might come if we were closer if you know what I mean. We will be visiting there next year. It will be my first visit. I met my wife in Hong Kong. We have tried to look for house to rent on the internet, but they don't have very much information on them. Do you think it is better to rent at first? I know that I can't own property, but she can.
I guess I was just curious to know some nice areas that we can visit while we are there next year in preperation for our move. I would love to correspond with you. Thanks in advance.

Greg and Yanie in Florida.

Good Morning Greg and Yanie,

Welcome to the site. I've been offline for a day or two. Spent the weekend at the beach with my wife and family.

I know exactly what you mean about the knocks at the door. 30 minutes south of Tarlac City is Concepcion. Much smaller town and a fairly nice place. 30 minutes farther south and you're in Angeles City. More available in this area of Angeles. Shopping malls, restaurants etc.

Take a look at my profile here on the site and send me a private message. There I can send you my email address if you like.

But if nothing else, if you have never been to the Philippines before, I would strongly suggest renting before you dicide to buy a place. It takes a long time to really adjust to living in a place like this and one would want to be sure its where one wants to stay long term before buying.

Again, welcome to the site and send us a PM if you would like.


Gene and Viol...

[Clyde11]

Some people really would try to get ahead of you if they can in a long line, it's just right and good that you told her to get in line so she won't do it again in the future.

It is best to rent first so that you would have a lot of time to decide for the best location to settle to. Accessibility to the market, hospital, shops, even terminals or expressways could be a factor in your decision.

[Gene and Viol]

Originally Posted by hgrego115

Hi,

I recently joined this post and have enjoyed reading here. I notice that you answer a lot of the questions on here. I have been married to my Filipina wife for 7 years now. We live in Florida. I have a law enforcement pension, and we really want to move there. We have to wait until my 15 year old daughter hits the road at 18 so we have three years to go. It doesn't stop me from dreaming.
Her family is in Tarlac. We have considered moving there or perhaps somewhere else close to that area. We want to be about an hour away from her family. I'm just thinking of the many knocks on the door that might come if we were closer if you know what I mean. We will be visiting there next year. It will be my first visit. I met my wife in Hong Kong. We have tried to look for house to rent on the internet, but they don't have very much information on them. Do you think it is better to rent at first? I know that I can't own property, but she can.
I guess I was just curious to know some nice areas that we can visit while we are there next year in preperation for our move. I would love to correspond with you. Thanks in advance.

Greg and Yanie in Florida.

Hi Greg and Yanie,

Thought I'd grab this old post you put in long ago. Now that you have made the move, did you figure out a way to be the right distance from family members or have you decided where to live yet?

Gene...

[Phil_expat]

Originally Posted by Gene and Viol

WAIT YOUR TURN


We have all heard about and maybe even had to deal with a case of road rage in our home county at one time or another. But what about the surprise and angry feelings one experiences when someone deliberately cuts in front of you at a check out line at the grocery store, bank or other place of business? Add to this that it happens on a day you are in no mood to be screwed with. Do you say something or just let it go?

Where I come from in Southern California, if that happens the offender is very quickly told about it and at the same time told in a very stern way where the end of the line is.

After quite a few years of living in the Philippines now I have seen this many times over the years. It has happened to me a few times as well with nothing said about it by me at the time.
I have always figured its because of lack of education maybe and they just don’t know any better. So I have always let it slide and have not said anything to an offender. That is until the other day…

I had gone to a local pharmacy to get something for a headache I had that was bad enough to make even child birth seem like a pleasant alternative. After waiting MY turn in line and finally at the counter and ready to be waited on, a Filipino woman in her mid 30’s that looked like a wrestler from the Friday Night Smack Down show on TV pushed her way in front of me and tried to place her order.

Well, feeling as bad as I did and needing to tend the headache and get out of the heat anyway, I had finally had enough and gave this woman an education in “good manners and right conduct” as they would say in the school system here.

I tapped this woman on the shoulder and told her “I had to wait my turn in line and you will do the same.” And pointing far behind me told her “the line starts back there!!!”

With a look that could kill and saying a few angry words in her native language that I could not understand, she turned and took her place at the end of the line.

Maybe this woman really didn’t know any better. But judging from her reaction I would assume that she was use to doing anything she pleased wherever she goes and most likely getting away with it. But not on this day.

I guess the point is that even as a guest in a foreign country, geographic location on the earth does not change right and wrong or excuse bad manners and behavior.
And there comes a point when it really is okay to speak up for your own rights…

In the USA I have many Philippine friends that have commented a lot on life in the Philippines. Their main complainant is the lack of privacy when conducting business at a bank or even drug store. Someone always get next to me at the counter instead of waiting behind me, And as you stated cut in the line ahead of me. Most are from Manila and they hate driving there same as we do.

[Phil_expat]

Originally Posted by hgrego115

Hi,

I recently joined this post and have enjoyed reading here. I notice that you answer a lot of the questions on here. I have been married to my Filipina wife for 7 years now. We live in Florida. I have a law enforcement pension, and we really want to move there. We have to wait until my 15 year old daughter hits the road at 18 so we have three years to go. It doesn't stop me from dreaming.
Her family is in Tarlac. We have considered moving there or perhaps somewhere else close to that area. We want to be about an hour away from her family. I'm just thinking of the many knocks on the door that might come if we were closer if you know what I mean. We will be visiting there next year. It will be my first visit. I met my wife in Hong Kong. We have tried to look for house to rent on the internet, but they don't have very much information on them. Do you think it is better to rent at first? I know that I can't own property, but she can.
I guess I was just curious to know some nice areas that we can visit while we are there next year in preperation for our move. I would love to correspond with you. Thanks in advance.

Greg and Yanie in Florida.

Prices of property for sale or rent are over price on the internet. It is best to look in person. Your wife should go alone and get a price before you show up. Take your time before you buy. Rent for a year or two where you are thinking of buying. Your concern of “many knocks on the door” is more than valid. One hour distance seems a bit too near for me but mine is only 2 hours. My wife family is welcome to visit here but I do insist they ask first before coming. Once my in-laws insisted on coming to my wife, I told her I was busy and if they came I would not let them in. It was a tense situation but being strict seems to have worked.