How do you deal with the 'missing family' aspect of immigration? - Page 4

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How do you deal with the 'missing family' aspect of immigration?


This is what I did :

I cried and cried, until I got tired of crying.
Then I got over it.

I got myself involved with my new community, got very busy, met new friends, and just kept that webcam teleconferencing communications with extended family back "home", as I was making a new home, in my adopted country now.

This thread is very relevant to us, because our daughter, her husband and our 16 month granddaughter are considering New Zealand or OZ very strongly and I honestly don't know what I will do without them They live round the corner and we are an integral part of each other's lives, and helping to raise little one. But the best gift I could give my granddaughter is for her to leave the UK .......I hope that makes sense?

As they are moving away for son in law's work soon anyway, we thought we would move to France, then changed to Portugal recently after having been to France in February with friends, seen 11 properties all of which were hugely over priced and needed a huge amount of work done! Love France as we do, it has gone up and up price wise of late At least with both France and Portugal there are low cost flights, Ferrys and Eurostar, and we are only a short distance away. And the standard of building in Portugal has risen and is now very good, and you do get a lot for your money.

I expect we would all love it if life just stayed the same sometimes, but it never does, and people you love move on and away, and it is nothing like the old days when families tended to stay together.

All I can think is thank God for webcams and the internet, as this opens doors for us all to see each other and talk to our families as if they were almost in the same room. Before this we only had the phone!

If I had my dearest wish come true it would be to spend the rest of my life close to my daughter and granddaughter...........but for their own sakes, I must learn, I expect, to let them go.

Hi,

From a kid perspective, I grew up a long way from a lot f my family. I missed them all A LOT but phone calls and letters helped. (Of course the internet wasn't around - wow that makes me sound like a dinosaur!)

The minute I said goodbye to family I would start writing them a letter - it occupied me and made it hurt less. I would also look forward to calling them when I, or they - depending who was travelling - reached their home safely.

Hope this helps.

Gilly, yes its hard on us mums,but its good to see your family grow get on stand on there own feet.a Job well done.Most of my kids live 5hrs or more drive from us. but as you said web cam great .Its me who is off to Cyprus now they are setteld.Hope you find happines in Portugal, We need to let them go we wont always be here.We give life and hope they live it to the full.
Tricia

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has a point

Look after yourself dont run your life for others

Lovely to read your posts and thoughts everyone, thank you... it has helped... very hard to put all this into perspective when you are in the midst of it all . Yummy Mummy, in particular you summed this up so well, A JOB WELL DONE...........and perhaps we can remember we are a Global society today, the far flung corners of the world are not as they were, so inaccessable, they are close to hand, OZ is but 22 hours away, less than a day! And if we have done all we can, then thais A JOB WELL DONE ... thank you Tricia for that, once again. Gilly