I am worried that my neighbours might get killed by their daughter: What shall I do? - Page 2

ArabianNights · #11 (**permalink**) 26th December 2011, 11:05 PM

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Originally Posted by CatMandoo

Isn't anyone else in the building being bothered by this, or complaining about it?

There could be, the Bowabs wife hasnt mentioned it to me tho. Unfortunately, I don't think so - even if anyone did hear it - I dont think anyone would care

ArabianNights · #12 (**permalink**) 26th December 2011, 11:11 PM

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Originally Posted by canuck2010

Moving would be the easiest solution.

I wish it were that easy! Finding an apartment here in Alex is such a chore - and there arn't even any estate agents here. Well, there is only ONE that I know of and they charge a leg and a half. It took me forever to find the one I am in now and the other one's I saw were one's that had been empty for what seemed like decades. Properties just sitting here that people do not want to live in. The conditions of them.... oh ma God, were terrible. Some were rotting and I even saw some that had newspapers laid down on the floor dated from Egypt's last revolution!! - Covered in muck and cockroaches, and some more (mice droppings?) + the 10th century furniture.

HeartDream · #13 (**permalink**) 27th December 2011, 12:02 AM

I'm like you... I would want to do something about it too... but if you have other neighbours and if you can hear her every word then obviously the other neighbours must hear at least some of it, and if they're not interfering it's maybe because they know better of the situation.... Have they lived there for a long time? Are there other neighbours that you can talk to, or that have lived there before you? You could try asking them as you're obviously afraid and hopefully they can reassure you. Talk to the bawab and his wife and see what solutions they can offer.

Do you live alone? If you're staying with your husband or someone else maybe you could both go and talk to them when they're calm and offer to be there and help in whatever way you can. People aren't just hysterical without a reason and the daughter really needs to calm down.... I think a lot of it is perceived failure on her side to get married. I remember watching a documentary on how difficult and brutal society is to women in Egypt once they aren't married when they turn 25 or so. Since she is in her late 30s she must feel like she's living in hell from all the pressure, and being rejected adds to that.

You can watch that video here:

Women In Egypt Talk About Their Lives Video...

it's in Arabic translated to English, poor quality but worth watching if you want to understand more about the tremendous social pressure on women and marriage.

MaidenScotland · #14 (**permalink**) 27th December 2011, 06:40 AM

ohh dear what a dilemma but what the answer is I do not know.
Perhaps you could speak to your local Sheik?
Why don't you contact one of the womens groups that are on the net, I know it is not for abuse but they may be able to point you in the right directions

Maiden

CatMandoo · #15 (**permalink**) 27th December 2011, 09:50 AM

Have you tried asking the bowab to talk to them, and tell them that people in the building are complaining about the loud noise so late at night. What about asking the bowab to contact the owner of that flat (or did these ppl buy the flat) and tell him he is getting complaints about the late night noise level? Most bowabs have mobile numbers of flat owners (security reasons).

ArabianNights · #16 (**permalink**) 28th December 2011, 09:56 PM

Hi all, thanks so much for your suggestions. Last 2 nights or so have been OK, in fact it sounds like the family are coming to some kind of a solution - cuz i have been hearing them come in and out of their apartment during the day, which is unusual - but it seems like they have a solution. I have a feeling that the daughter is going to move out or something, or the parents have planned something.... just pray it all turns out well for them - especially the parents!

HeartDream · #17 (**permalink**) 29th December 2011, 12:18 AM

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Originally Posted by ArabianNights

Hi all, thanks so much for your suggestions. Last 2 nights or so have been OK, in fact it sounds like the family are coming to some kind of a solution - cuz i have been hearing them come in and out of their apartment during the day, which is unusual - but it seems like they have a solution. I have a feeling that the daughter is going to move out or something, or the parents have planned something.... just pray it all turns out well for them - especially the parents!

Ah that is so good

. And does not surprise me to be honest, sometimes people need to reach the limit to realize they need to get down from it. I hope and pray that this will work so they can all be ok. Good of you for caring, bless you

CatMandoo · #18 (**permalink**) 29th December 2011, 03:10 PM

Hope the peace and quiet continues, and they have resolved their crisis. I can only imagine how stressful it was, listening to that night after night. And as HeartDream said, bless you for caring!

hurghadapat · #19 (**permalink**) 29th December 2011, 06:25 PM

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Originally Posted by ArabianNights

Hi all, thanks so much for your suggestions. Last 2 nights or so have been OK, in fact it sounds like the family are coming to some kind of a solution - cuz i have been hearing them come in and out of their apartment during the day, which is unusual - but it seems like they have a solution. I have a feeling that the daughter is going to move out or something, or the parents have planned something.... just pray it all turns out well for them - especially the parents!

Well i have read your original post but have refrained from answering till now.... so here are my thoughts....most people on this forum are ex-pats living on an ex-pats package which means most of them are living among expats in probably gated communities so their contact with real life among Egyptians is minimal....i lived in an area where most of my neighbours where Egyptians and belive me all of this shouting and arguing is quite normal....don't forget they are a hot blooded race and would fight with a feather and the longer you live there the more you will see this sort of behaviour....and especially during Ramadan...so my advice would be try and ignore or turn the music up or move apartments so you don't have to live amongst Egyptians.

ArabianNights · #20 (**permalink**) 31st December 2011, 12:15 AM

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Originally Posted by hurghadapat

Well i have read your original post but have refrained from answering till now.... so here are my thoughts....most people on this forum are ex-pats living on an ex-pats package which means most of them are living among expats in probably gated communities so their contact with real life among Egyptians is minimal....i lived in an area where most of my neighbours where Egyptians and belive me all of this shouting and arguing is quite normal....don't forget they are a hot blooded race and would fight with a feather and the longer you live there the more you will see this sort of behaviour....and especially during Ramadan...so my advice would be try and ignore or turn the music up or move apartments so you don't have to live amongst Egyptians.

If thats the case then, I am probably living in a ghetto or a slum, in comparison to other expats LOL Im in an area full of Egyptians... not many foreigners around here and any foreigners are the type that blend in easily, like western-Asians or the like. I know what you mean, though about this being normal - its quite 'normal' in our culture too, but I am not personally used to it, being raised in the west. Its just weird living it!