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Marrying a local UAE girl, please help


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Old 18th June 2011, 11:39 PM
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Hey guys, I don't live in the UAE, but rather in a western country. My gf is an emirati girl from Dubai, im crazy about this girl! and i know all the restrictions that happen in the gulf. I've done my research, i just want to know what are my chances of marrying this girl! She is going to ask her mum that i'm interested in the next few days as she is on a Uni break. (she is from a mixed marriage herself, her dad is a local but her mother is from the gulf).

I am muslim and an Iraqi, but pretty much have lived all my life in a western country.

I would really appreciate any advice or if anyone has gone through the same experience or has a friend who has. I'm crazy about this girl! I just want to know where i stand

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Old 19th June 2011, 09:55 AM
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It all depends on her parents and if they approve. It doesn't really matter what we say here or how crazy you are about the girl, if her parents do not approve, then it's the end of this love story....unless, she runs away to be with you. Then its your head on a platter

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Hmm, first and only post ????

I'm thinking troll.

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Orrrrr....her parents didn't approve and they're out to get him Ah! The things you do for love!

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Possibly, however on the off chance that it's genuine - my personal advice is weigh up all your options and wait to see what the parents have to say. At the end of the day it's up to the guy and girl how much they respect their parents wishes but they shouldn't confuse culture with religion. You ARE allowed to chose your own partner, arranged marriages are cultural. It is always best though if the parents agree makes everyones lives happier

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....... but they shouldn't confuse culture with religion. You ARE allowed to chose your own partner, arranged marriages are cultural. ........
Would you still agree if he was not muslim and she was and they wanted to get married?

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No - as a Muslim woman - I don't agree with a Muslim woman marrying a non Muslim man However sometimes you have to accept born Muslims haven't chosen their faith a may decide as adults that they don't actually believe. In this case they are no longer classed as Muslims anyway.

When I say you can chose your partner I obviously mean another believer, for a woman the only option is another Muslim.

As the poster quite clearly claims to be Muslim and the chances are high that the girl is too being a local, then their is a matter of choice in this instance.

You CAN decide who you want to marry. There is heavy emphasis on pleasing your parents but it is not meant to the extent that you never live any part of your own life, make your own decisions etc. You are perfectly within your rights to go against your parents wishes if they do not have a valid, justifiable reason for what they are saying or if it is against Islam. A lot of people don't because it can cause friction within the family...but they DO have that option

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You will need lots and lots of money and will be expected to give her the lifestyle she is either accustomed to, or the one she wants - either way its going to be very very expensive!!!!

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Just go to Vegas man, e-mail her mum a pic of you dressed as Elvis taking her up the aisle (in the church that is, not in the honeymoon suite afterwards).

Ain't a damn thing she'll be able to do about it. Well, I guess she could have you killed or something, but then who doesn't love a Romeo & Juliet tale of tragic love?

You know it makes sense!

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Bit harsh. Not all locals are rich. A great deal of them, once you get outside of dubai and abu dhabi, are actually not so well off or materialistic as so many seem to think.

The bit about referring to this person as your gf, already doesnt sound good. I havent met any local family who allows their sisters/daughters to have bfs, at least, not in the open.

I assume undisclosed knows that by marrying an outsider, her children will have no rights in the uae for citizenship. If you were to get a divorce later on, being a muslim, you know she would most likely come back home. Her children would not be provided educations, healthcare, or anything. A mixed marriage in the uae is quite different when discussing men and women. Men do it all the time. Women hardly ever do it.

I do have a friend whose sister has married a bahrain man. It happens but you better be a devout muslim, have a local mosque full of fellow friends who are willing to vouch for your character, and be able to provide a good life for their daughter. If they are a well off family though, probly none of that will matter. Family name matters more

I would assume you have discussed this and you know the answer already that her parents are not going to approve and that is why you are asking. If her parents say no, its not going to happen.

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