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Here is my take on things for what it's worth.

There is an British undertaker operating in the Paphos area so language should not be a problem.

If the death occurs in a hospital then I'm afraid you need to be a little careful as it's possible the mortuary attendants my get a backhander from an undertaker who will be called and will do his best to sell you his services at a time when you are at your most vulnerable.

There is no legal obstacle to being cremated in Cyprus but there are no facilities either.

I understand that there are mainly two types of grave, permanent and temporary. If you opt for a temporary grave then after a period of time it may be re-opened and someone else may be keeping you company.

Pricing of the graves varies and is under the control of the mucktar in the villages.

There are people in the Paphos who can be called and they will guide you through the process. I understand that they are church based but are not going to refuse to help just because you are not a church goer.

Maybe someone could add/correct this then it could be worth writing up properly and turned into a sticky.
Thank you Pam n Dave for all this info, it is really helpful and i know i have asked an emotive question but it is something i hadn't really seen covered at all and of course, one day will affect us all but we don't want to either think or talk about and I just was thinking when we move there "what if"? I agree it would possibly be a good idea for a sticky(over to Veronica i think ha ha).
Of course we are like MacManiac going to live forever so probably wont have to be think about it anyway he he.
Once again thenks to everyone for putting their views, hope i haven't totaly depressed you all.
Love to all you who have done it, on the way or just thinking about it.(moving to Cyprus i mean not dying ha ha)
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Ha Ha thanks Veronica. It would be good to hear everybodies feelings towards this subject too as well as practicalities i think. Are any of our ladies of the slightly older generation(or men of course) worried about what would happen to them if anything happened to their partners and i mean in the immediate time after not long term, although that would be interesting to hear as well.
And are there any other subjects that anyone can think of that could be interesting to talk about, that we don't really like to talk about?.
I hope it is o.k. to ask, because i don't want to suggest "owt" i shouldn't.
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It's an important topic which, surprisingly, we tend to forget when we make this lifestyle change.

Letitia and I have discussed this in the past and we both want to be cremated. It just did not occur to me that this is not yet possible in Cyprus, which shows the value of this thread.

We have always planned to retire to Cyprus, and this is going to happen in 2014. We have also discussed what we would do when death takes one of us. My feeling is that I would return to the UK as our dream would be over. Letitia, on the other hand, said that she would remain in Cyprus for as long as she could, and financially this should not pose a problem. However, it does influence where we will finally settle in Cyprus.

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Dennis and I have discussed this quite often and both feel that if anything happened to one of us the other would probably want to go back to the UK to be close to family despite the fact that we have some very good friends here. I think that is another reason why we would our bodies to be repatriated rather than buried here.
While we are both alive there is no way we would go back as we are very happy here.

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This thread has brought both practical and forward-planning issues to mind, and is very, very useful. I am sure no one wants to think about what is inevitable for us all, and so bringing this out into the open is so valuable.

Apart from my flippant comment about intending to live forever, the questions relating to burial (Cyprus or the UK) or cremation need to be addressed by all of us sooner or later. I felt quite uncomfortable discussing this with Ann, but I am really glad we did talk about it now. It may not have made it onto one of our spreadsheets but we now both know what the other's feelings and wishes are.

So my thanks for starting this topic, and to all those who have contributed as well, and let us all hope we don't need to do anything about it for years to come.
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I promised to post the definitive process after a death has occurred.

I asked Maureen Watt of Angel Guardians Funeral Home Pafos to help but instead she did the job for me so I would like her to take the credit.

I just want to add that it was prepared in September 2012 so if you are reading this much later then it may be wise to check that it is still relevant.



When a loved one passes away, this is what normally has to happen.

SUDDEN DEATH
Home: If they have not been seen by a doctor in the last few days, normally the police are called, in turn they call the ambulance and the deceased is then taken to hospital for a post mortem. Unfortunately a family member/next of kin has to go to the hospital for identification purposes.

Then ....and this is a recent development, the family have to go to the police station to collect the cause of death certificate and confirmation from the court letter for allowing either burial or repatriation. The Commander of the Police has changed the rules due to some funeral homes allegedly paying them for the business without the families authorisation!

WARNING: This is still unfortunately happening .

TERMINAL ILLNESS DEATH
Home: If they have been seen by the doctor, normally he/she will come out and issue a cause of death certificate and a funeral home can be notified for collection and bring the deceased to the funeral home mortuary if they have one.

HOSPITAL DEATH
Hospital/Clinic/Hospice: When someone has been ill and has been in receipt of care in a hospital normally the attending doctor will issue a cause of death certificate and usually the deceased is then taken to the mortuary in those premises. At a convenient time to the family they would then contact their approved licensed funeral director.

Please remember this is not a time to panic, the mortuaries can usually store a loved one for a day or more if required. Then when you are ready you then contact the relevant person.

Please do not be bullied or pressurised if there are funeral homes hounding you either at the mortuary or on the phone. If the deceased has passed in hospital suddenly, then again a post mortem will usually be carried out.
The after math so to speak:

Contacting a funeral home can be a very daunting task, it is one more step of accepting a loved ones passing, and reality seems to now be kicking in.

The appointed funeral home should usually come out to the house and start the necessary paperwork for authorisation to collect your loved one and have a chat.

The next day you would have usually decided on what you wish for, either a burial in Cyprus or a repatriation back home. Again, maybe family have to come over so this is not necessarily a ”must“choice at this time. Remember do things at your pace ..... NOT anyone elses!

The funeral home would then be in receipt of passport, ID card, alien book and resident form if applicable. Make sure that the passport is legally copied by your lawyer as some places need the officially stamped copied version.

ARRANGING THE FUNERAL

The funeral director takes instructions from the family as to whether for a burial in Cyprus they wish a church service before the cemetery, not all people are religious and prefer just a gathering at the graveside.

The village cemeteries here only normally allow you to purchase a plot if you own your own home, on the odd occasion, the mayor or mucktar can authorise different, although there is Pafos Metropolitan and Erimi which can be used if the village cemeteries are full.

The costs for plots vary from €340 (temporary Pafos) to €4000 (Kissonerga) and that does not usually include opening and closing. The funeral director can do all of this for you and arrange the church if applicable.

Arranging the date for an actual service is again down to the family, are people coming from abroad?, will the minister be available for the service?

A good funeral director will usually obtain a couple of different days for the family to choose from and then confirm when all agreed.

Flowers or/and donations again can be arranged by the funeral director, however usually if the family have a favourite florist here it is suggested they use that one.

At British funerals some families are aware of the wish of bright colours worn and not necessarily black, a track or two of their favourite music may be played, this is where every funeral is unique for the individual.

Cypriot funerals can be very nice, before they could be awful, although now it is realised that it was the disrespect of the funeral director, in jeans and t shirts, but this year this has improved, no longer should they stand and smoke at the graveside, they should now stand with respect at all times.

The service usually begins at the home of the Deceased, then onto the church where most people will walk round the casket and then off to the cemetery with oil, bread and water.

Once at the cemetery the lid is taken off and the casket lowered and the lid placed aside the casket, the priest then does a blessing, the family start to backfill the plot and then the priest usually breaks the jug the water came in and the plate for the bread or/and golifa, normally most attendees still wear black.

Cost vary due to the uniqueness of the funeral, but an average funeral cost is as detailed:

Funeral services including basic wooden flat lid coffin 1100.00
Minister for graveside only 150.00
Anglican church service non member with organist 346.00
(that includes the graveside committal)
Floral coffin sprays from 50-100
Depends on how personalised you wish ... Mum ..Dad 150+
Plots depends on area

Paperwork is normally all done and included for the family by the funeral director, normally they should obtain 6 official death certificates, cancel passport, notify immigration and advise the British high commission, keeping it as stress free for the family as possible.

Repatriations again would be organised where the funeral director liases with the funeral director in the home country, constantly advise the family (both countries) of updates and information they may need to ensure everything that can be done for them will be.

Repatriations to the UK currently range from €3000 - €3500, depending on weight and height.
Again please be aware a certain funeral home may quote one price and then bill you for another.

Every funeral is unique and special, it has to be as perfect as possible because you do not usually get a second chance!

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Thanks Pam n Dave for that comprehensive post and I think its something we all need to know. And I know none of us want to be thinking about this and I desperately hope none of us have to use the service in the near future, but one day we will all have to wherever we may be and having this info to refer to if needed could be a real help. I think a lot of details are actually very similar to what we practice in the U.k but it is very daunting in another country.
Once again, thank you for this valuable post and i hope to meet up with you one day.
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As a District Nurse I see many deaths, most of them expected deaths and some unexspected. The process seems very similar to the UK, especially in respect of post mortems if the deceased has not been seen by a GP for a period of time (2 weeks in the UK). Although I will be working in Paphos when we come over next year in a similar job I have yet to find out about Palliative care in Cyprus which is what the majority of my current post entails. I feel it is a great honour to help someone spend the final part of their life at home, in comfort and with their loved ones.....I will miss this aspect of my job when I move.

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Phew!! Having just been through an awful experience when my husband was taken very ill, very suddenly and completely out of the blue in Cyprus, this was one of the things I thought about on the flight back home! What if....we were already living there...what would he want....what would I want?......certainly when he is well enough, it will need to be discussed prior to our move! In the past he has always said "scatter my ashes in Cyprus" so I suppose we are half way there!!

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