bev-guidance-please!!

[peppera-ann-]

alrighty-
can you tell me the probability of ...
Getting accepted if he is still here when we file for the spousal visa.Things are escalating here faster than we thought they would regarding staying at the hotel.
If we were completely honest (would be anyway of course)in explaining our situation on the visa etc.?
I know that if we are denied we have 28 days in which to file an appeal if they deny us? At that time I suppose we could send him home asap and file the appeal?
I know that it is best to send him home asap! but this is my question about hime being here and applying.
thank you bev-and everyone!
cheers

[peppera-ann-]

or anyone????

[jojo]

I'm not sure anyone else would know the full history of your problem. I certainly dont, sorry, but I know its complicated and that Bev has been helping you. If its that you want to go to the UK then I personally would say DONT its horrible there, get your husband to move to the US????

Sorry, I'm sure thats the wrong answer for you lol !! Bev, I'm sure will be along shortly

Jo xxx

[peppera-ann-]

Originally Posted by jojo

I'm not sure anyone else would know the full history of your problem. I certainly dont, sorry, but I know its complicated and that Bev has been helping you. If its that you want to go to the UK then I personally would say DONT its horrible there, get your husband to move to the US????

Sorry, I'm sure thats the wrong answer for you lol !! Bev, I'm sure will be along shortly

Jo xxx

well he will be banned from the usa...so really no other option..
but why horrible???

[Minuvweyna]

Pepper-Ann,

I mean no offense to Jojo or anyone else who has left the UK because they prefer somewhere else, but I think you will find that there are those that love and hate any country. Their opinions are valid, but they are in fact opinions, and there is no guarantee that you will agree with them (I don't like the US much, but there are many who love it there, and that doesn't make them, or me, wrong). In the end only you and your fiance will be able to determine if the UK will be a good place for the two of you. Since your fiance is a UK citizen he should be able to tell you a lot about it and I'm sure you have discussed the pros and cons of the move.

I've seen a few of your posts, and your situation sounds very complicated. You are almost certainly correct that he will be banned, so living in the US together isn't an option. Always remember though, if the two of you decide you don't like the UK, once you're there, as he is a citizen of an EU member country you will have a lot of flexibility to move around Europe as you wish.

Don't let anyone rattle you about your plan to move to the UK. Just focus on getting married and getting through the visa process for now, you will have plenty of time to see if Spain or France or Italy, etc are more to your liking. That is, of course, if you find the UK not to be to your tastes - and there are many of us that love it in the UK, you may well be one!

I did have a thought, but it will need to be confirmed by those who know more. If your spousal visa to the UK is rejected you might try the EEA Family Permit route (by moving somewhere in the EU together, once married, for 6 months). That might ease your transition to the UK if it came to that. I'm not certain.

I hope someone with more information on your situation can be of more practical help, but I thought I would at least offer a word of reassurance, as you undoubtedly have enough stress just now.

Best of luck,
Elizabeth

[jojo]

Originally Posted by peppera-ann-

well he will be banned from the usa...so really no other option..
but why horrible???

As Minuvweyna has pointed out, its just my opinion and we're all different. I found it cold (both in climate and the people), claustrophobic, grey, miserable, opressive, decaying and it seems to me that its seriously falling apart in this economic crisis ( can you tell I dont like it lol). So we live in Spain!!

Jo xxx

[Fatbrit]

Originally Posted by peppera-ann-

alrighty-
can you tell me the probability of ...
Getting accepted if he is still here when we file for the spousal visa.Things are escalating here faster than we thought they would regarding staying at the hotel.
If we were completely honest (would be anyway of course)in explaining our situation on the visa etc.?
I know that if we are denied we have 28 days in which to file an appeal if they deny us? At that time I suppose we could send him home asap and file the appeal?
I know that it is best to send him home asap! but this is my question about hime being here and applying.
thank you bev-and everyone!
cheers

Your chances of getting a UK visa increase greatly when he is on the ground in the UK with a job to support you and place for you to live. He needs to get back ASAP and start working on these things so they are current when the time comes for your visa application.

[Minuvweyna]

It's really all about where you're from. I come from Michigan in the US. So now that I live in Scotland I find the weather gentle, mild, never too hot or cold, and never so dry that all my skin decides to peel off every winter! I also don't turn into a lobster after less than 10 minutes in the sun during July and August, so I'm one of the people who is a big advocate for British weather. In comparison to midwest manners (or lack thereof) I find most people here to be far more polite and less nosey, which I find a blessing. And the accents are a delightful side bonus. Economically it's definitely weathering worse than some places and better than others (Michigan has had a mass exodus of population and is still hovering around 12% unemployment, so Scotland doesn't seem so bad to me).

It is all about perspective. I don't know where you are moving from, but I expect you will find some things to be better and may miss some other things, but that would be true if you moved to a distant region of the US (Maine to Texas might be an even bigger culture shock!)

Elizabeth

[peppera-ann-]

Originally Posted by Minuvweyna

It's really all about where you're from. I come from Michigan in the US. So now that I live in Scotland I find the weather gentle, mild, never too hot or cold, and never so dry that all my skin decides to peel off every winter! I also don't turn into a lobster after less than 10 minutes in the sun during July and August, so I'm one of the people who is a big advocate for British weather. In comparison to midwest manners (or lack thereof) I find most people here to be far more polite and less nosey, which I find a blessing. And the accents are a delightful side bonus. Economically it's definitely weathering worse than some places and better than others (Michigan has had a mass exodus of population and is still hovering around 12% unemployment, so Scotland doesn't seem so bad to me).

It is all about perspective. I don't know where you are moving from, but I expect you will find some things to be better and may miss some other things, but that would be true if you moved to a distant region of the US (Maine to Texas might be an even bigger culture shock!)

Elizabeth

haha and im coming from Central Texas...never been out of the states before. I have done so much research to try and prepare for the culture shock.
We celebrated our 1 year anniversary just 2 days ago and in November will have been living together for 2 years.
We have been looking at the wait times, 5 months i have seen, and I just dont want to be apart for that length of time. We know that it will be better if he was there, I am just curious if anyone has actually gotten an approved visa with the sponsor/spouse still in the other country.

[peppera-ann-]

Originally Posted by Fatbrit

Your chances of getting a UK visa increase greatly when he is on the ground in the UK with a job to support you and place for you to live. He needs to get back ASAP and start working on these things so they are current when the time comes for your visa application.

yes sir,
but have you seen anyone that has stayed and was still approved? we just dont want to have him go (he will be banned) and then get denied for some reason and then not be able to be with each other.