Saying goodbye...

[Janice]

Hi all,

Now we have done 2 rekkis to perth and have made a final decision to emigrate in Nov this year. Now I have the awful task of telling everyone especially my parents. This is really taking the shine off the excitment as I know they will be devastated. Although it has been on the cards for a couple of years, it is now much more real. How do people cope saying goodbye, especially at the airport?
Goin to tell my parents today of our date, wish me luck..

[Marginally Crazy]

Hi

This is going to be hard, no matter how you put it, which words you choose, what sort of relationship you have with your parents. Sometimes it helps the other person - the one who potentially feels let down/ betrayed/ deserted etc- that we empathize with how they feel and that we are hurting too for being the cause of their hurt. Make them understand that it will be hard for you too to say Good bye and that it will break your heart a little,( or a lot ) but they brought you up to be independent and live your own life.
Good luck

[Dolly]

Hi Janice,

TBH, we didn't have anyone at the airport to see us off - we just couldn't bear it. We stayed in a hotel at the airport the night before and then caught our flight the next morning. Saying your final goodbyes at the airport is devastating, and the last thing I wanted was to blub for England whilst waiting to check in, whilst waiting to board and then on the plane (once i start blubbing, I just can't seem to stop!!).

We had a family goodbye party so got most of the goodbyes done that way. Some friends came too so even more ticked off the list at the same time. Try to keep it all to a minimum, it's emotionally and physically draining. But, once you're sitting on the plane and you've taken off, you're so focussed on the next step in your new life that all the heartache becomes a distant memory.

Good luck on telling your parents.

Which part of Perth have you chosen to live in?

Dolly

[anj1976]

Hi Janice, wish u luck.. it is not easy but they will adjust, time heals anything and everything and for you the initial settling bit will help. Call everyone over as Dolly suggested and with so many people around there are less tears and more laughter. that would make it a wee bit easier.

Cheers
PS the pix are awesome

[muss]

Hi janice, good luck on your move and with the hard task you have with the parents. Im new to all this so please let me know how you get on, which part of perth are you moving to? Im hoping to move out there myself.
Good luck.

[Janice]

Originally Posted by Dolly

Hi Janice,

TBH, we didn't have anyone at the airport to see us off - we just couldn't bear it. We stayed in a hotel at the airport the night before and then caught our flight the next morning. Saying your final goodbyes at the airport is devastating, and the last thing I wanted was to blub for England whilst waiting to check in, whilst waiting to board and then on the plane (once i start blubbing, I just can't seem to stop!!).

We had a family goodbye party so got most of the goodbyes done that way. Some friends came too so even more ticked off the list at the same time. Try to keep it all to a minimum, it's emotionally and physically draining. But, once you're sitting on the plane and you've taken off, you're so focussed on the next step in your new life that all the heartache becomes a distant memory.

Good luck on telling your parents.

Which part of Perth have you chosen to live in?

Dolly

Hi Dolly,
Thanks for that and all the replies, it will be hard I know I need to harder up..
We've have two very different areas in mind and haven't yet decided. The first is the Northern suburbs ir Joondalup areas, Ocena Reef etc. However when we did this recent rekki we went to the South Mandurah and found a place that I loved and felt at home in straight away, this place was called Madora Bay, beautiful. But I haven't done much research on this area and would like to find out more about it before committing. Its so hard as we have 3 kids so we need to find an area and stick to it, it is unsettling enough without us keep moving schools etc.

So if you know of any contact who live in this area I would love to contact people.
Cheers jan

[Janice]

Originally Posted by muss

Hi janice, good luck on your move and with the hard task you have with the parents. Im new to all this so please let me know how you get on, which part of perth are you moving to? Im hoping to move out there myself.
Good luck.

Hi Muss,

We have been to Perth on two rekkis now and are undecided or the Northern suburbs, ie, Joondalup area, Currambine or the South only one place that I would live down there, Madora Bay, it just felt like home. So we are going in Nov, by then I hope to have a clear idea of where I am going. It is so difficult. Where are you going
Jan

[swordfish]

Originally Posted by Marginally Crazy

Hi

This is going to be hard, no matter how you put it, which words you choose, what sort of relationship you have with your parents. Sometimes it helps the other person - the one who potentially feels let down/ betrayed/ deserted etc- that we empathize with how they feel and that we are hurting too for being the cause of their hurt. Make them understand that it will be hard for you too to say Good bye and that it will break your heart a little,( or a lot ) but they brought you up to be independent and live your own life.
Good luck

HI Janice
It will be hard to tell your folks, but once you do you will feel a lot more stress free, We have not moved to OZ yet but hopefully August this year, I told my parents and family at the begining of our application that we wanted to move to australia and that was hard, i kept putting it off, even my brother who i work with every day, I had to get him on his own and just blurt it out, but once i told every one you feel a whole lot better.
Good luck Swordfish

[ddavid]

Hi Janice
What is your timeline thread?

[srn_29]

Hi Janice,

Good luck on your move. Gosh, i can imagine parents seeing us off at the airport with tears , its going to be so damn difficult.

A check list might come handy, make a note of things to do and people whom you have to inform, so that you can tick them in the list when its done. Good luck to you again !!


Cheers !!
srn