Saying goodbye...

[Janice]

Originally Posted by ddavid

Hi Janice
What is your timeline thread?

hi David,

My timeline is as follows:
went to expo in Edinburgh, they were interviewing nurses so went for interview, got sponsership deal. (feb 08)
Started the visa application, intially going for 457 visa, until got more infoand went for PR visa which they said would take longer. (but didn't)
Did all of the application myself, posted in July 08.
Recieved PR visa in Dec 08, had to validate visa by July 09, which we have now done. Hope to be out there by Nov 09. Just leaving people is the hardest bit...
QUITE QUICK REALLY...

[Janice]

Originally Posted by srn_29

Hi Janice,

Good luck on your move. Gosh, i can imagine parents seeing us off at the airport with tears , its going to be so damn difficult.

A check list might come handy, make a note of things to do and people whom you have to inform, so that you can tick them in the list when its done. Good luck to you again !!


Cheers !!
srn

Hi Srn.

Yeah it won't be easy... Nor will they make it easy as they are all so hurt we are leaving. I would rather go to the airport alone as it will be far tooo traumatic. Being selfish and don't really want to know how much they are hurting. Where are you going?

[kaz101]

Hi Janice,

Just let your family know what's in your heart and they will understand, even if it takes them a while.

Make sure they realise that you will be in touch on a regular basis and what we did was make sure that they had Skype set up so that my parents KNEW we would be in touch.

My parents knew for 3 years that we were moving but that didn't make it any easier.

Things I would have changed, looking back....
We stayed with them for 2 weeks when our house was sold and although that seemed like the sensible thing to do it made it harder for my parents since they kept thinking we were at the house - in hindsight we could have stayed at a B&B although we did have some wonderful conversations with my parents.

Things that worked....
Setting up Skype, making sure that they knew how to SMS me, setting aside times that we would talk on the phone (or Skype).

Dad took us to the coach station, and Mum said goodbye at their place. I didn't even want Dad taking us to the coach station because of the state he would be in when he drove back. We explained that me crying at the airport & on the plane just wouldn't help anyone so that's the way we did it. I even phoned home to check Dad made it back okay.

That was in July 2007. My parents have been out here twice since then (they once said that they'd NEVER come out here for about 5 weeks each time. They enjoyed it more when they came out in March since they went back to the UK in the Spring. They can see why we moved out here and have met our friends and we've taken them to meetings (such as Rotary).

It is tough and they may treat it like a bereavement but they will get through it and so will you.

Good luck, and we're always here if you need to 'talk'.

Big hug,
Karen

[muss]

Hi jan,
Well im planning on going to perth, i have family over thier already just have to sort out uk side its going to take a couple of years as long as i make it before im 45 i'le be ok lol. Lived in perth when i was a child so the move has always been in me.

[srn_29]

Janice,

I completly agree with Karen, i think though its gonna be difficult we need to face it. I vowed to myself that I'm gonna make my parents computer literates and then leave, that would make them a lill strong.

I'm still in the very first stage of my processing, so its gonna take a while before i put my foot in Aus. However, I'm thinking of Brisbane, the way Brisbane has been described in various threads I have fallen in love with the city. Hope everything goes smoothly.

Please keep us posted, all of us would be very excited to hear from you.


Cheers !!
srn

[gin]

hi janice
Know what you mean about saying goodbye. We emigrate to Perth on August 31st this year - been talking about it for years but now finally happening I get butterflies in my stomach each time I think of saying bye to everyone. Have already told my family I don't want them to come to airport!! My husbands mum lives out in Australia so we are going to be staying with them for a while - they live in north beach. Can;t believe how quick the time is going though. To make matters worse my sister who I am very close to is due a baby on 28th August - just hope she has it before we go. But not sure if that will make it even harder! In fact at this moment in time not sure I will even be able to get on the flight!! let me know how it goes telling everyone - and I will let you know first hand what the good bye was like in September but I am sure it will be bloody awful!
Gina

[Janice]

Originally Posted by kaz101

Hi Janice,

Just let your family know what's in your heart and they will understand, even if it takes them a while.

Make sure they realise that you will be in touch on a regular basis and what we did was make sure that they had Skype set up so that my parents KNEW we would be in touch.

My parents knew for 3 years that we were moving but that didn't make it any easier.

Things I would have changed, looking back....
We stayed with them for 2 weeks when our house was sold and although that seemed like the sensible thing to do it made it harder for my parents since they kept thinking we were at the house - in hindsight we could have stayed at a B&B although we did have some wonderful conversations with my parents.

Things that worked....
Setting up Skype, making sure that they knew how to SMS me, setting aside times that we would talk on the phone (or Skype).

Dad took us to the coach station, and Mum said goodbye at their place. I didn't even want Dad taking us to the coach station because of the state he would be in when he drove back. We explained that me crying at the airport & on the plane just wouldn't help anyone so that's the way we did it. I even phoned home to check Dad made it back okay.

That was in July 2007. My parents have been out here twice since then (they once said that they'd NEVER come out here for about 5 weeks each time. They enjoyed it more when they came out in March since they went back to the UK in the Spring. They can see why we moved out here and have met our friends and we've taken them to meetings (such as Rotary).

It is tough and they may treat it like a bereavement but they will get through it and so will you.

Good luck, and we're always here if you need to 'talk'.

Big hug,
Karen

Ah thanks Karen,

Its lovely to talk to people who understand what I'm goin through.Feel so guilty now and churned up about leaving family. that come Nov i will be a complete wreck... But I am determined and am in focus mode now. Its daunting for us as well as it is moving into the unknown, everything will be unfamilar initially. Regret the things you do in life, not the things you don't. Ps hope I don't regret this thou..
My head is completely battered at the present time, sooo stressed...
Cheers everyone.
jan x

[Janice]

Originally Posted by gin

hi janice
Know what you mean about saying goodbye. We emigrate to Perth on August 31st this year - been talking about it for years but now finally happening I get butterflies in my stomach each time I think of saying bye to everyone. Have already told my family I don't want them to come to airport!! My husbands mum lives out in Australia so we are going to be staying with them for a while - they live in north beach. Can;t believe how quick the time is going though. To make matters worse my sister who I am very close to is due a baby on 28th August - just hope she has it before we go. But not sure if that will make it even harder! In fact at this moment in time not sure I will even be able to get on the flight!! let me know how it goes telling everyone - and I will let you know first hand what the good bye was like in September but I am sure it will be bloody awful!
Gina

Hi Gina,
Oh god you sound so like me. It's awful eh. I feel the same if I feel like this now how can I ever get on the plane. Where in Perth are you heading? Have you been before? It would be good to keep in touch as you are heading to same place. If you are on facebook or have an email address PM me as I'm not always on this site. On facebook I am JaniceTaylor (was Mudd).
Do you have jobs to go to?
Good luck for August.
Jan

[gin]

No - dont have jobs to go to. I am a primary teacher - my husband in construction. Not even thinking about jobs until we get there. Got to much on my mind already! My husband was originally born in Perth - came over here when he was 6 - so got spouse visa through him. Feel exactly like you - feels like I am going through a grieving process at the moment - horrible feeling - part of me wants time to hurry up so can just go - other part wants it to slow down so it never comes! Really do want to go - am sure it wil be the best decision of our lives - but know it is going to be very hard. One miute think can't wait to go but next I think were doing ok here lets just forget about the idea!!! Know from talking to others that first year will be very very hard - and am preparing myself mentally for that ! I think! Anyway will add you to my facebook now - so can defo stay in touch. Good to be in touch with someone who going through the same thing as its very hard to talk to family about how I'm feeling as there automatic response is don't go! And thats not what I want to hear. We break up from school on 25th July and I am trying very hard to remain calm and collected up to that point!!! Hope all goes well with you Gina

[kaz101]

Originally Posted by Janice

Regret the things you do in life, not the things you don't. Ps hope I don't regret this thou..

Moving to Australia was one of the BEST moves we've ever made and neither of us regret it. We've made Australia our home and we love it here.