going home oz not for me!

[gravytrain]

Oz is ok, but I understand that it isnt for some people. Where in oz did you go to anyway? It would have been better to probably start of in a city like melbourne around the winter months, as opposed to a really hot city such as Townsville or so?

[Baby75]

Originally Posted by gravytrain

Oz is ok, but I understand that it isnt for some people. Where in oz did you go to anyway? It would have been better to probably start of in a city like melbourne around the winter months, as opposed to a really hot city such as Townsville or so?

we came over in winter to the sunshine coast

[Martinw]

Originally Posted by gravytrain

Oz is ok, but I understand that it isnt for some people. Where in oz did you go to anyway? It would have been better to probably start of in a city like melbourne around the winter months, as opposed to a really hot city such as Townsville or so?

We are loving OZ now, but in our case even though we wanted to go to Melbourne, I feel for some people it is not always the option as we had to stay regional, and if a company in MT Isa was your only hope of escaping a violent South Africa, then you grab it. You might not enjoy it, and maybe be depressed for a year or two, but when you stick it out things eventually go your way, and I would not have it any other way now. Aus is great and we love it here and are really happy now. But like you say, maybe OZ is not for evryone. I think people from UK, allthough want to move somewhere, still do not have to, or feel like they are forced to, the way South Africans feel to provide their children with a safe future. But thats no problem. If someone can gladly go back to their country - no problem. We have accepted Australia and would not live anywhere else( just a pity those bloody South Africans beat us at the cricket haha)


cheers

[Aussiejock]

Don't want to upset anyone and I am well aware that we are all different, but I do not think that 7 months is long enough to decide that you can't live in a place, especially when it is totally different to your home country. Emmigrating is very hard! I didn't want to come, refuse at the last minute the first time we were supposed to go. Then I felt guilty because it was what my OH wanted and so we came. I was miserable! Stuck at home with 3 boys under 4, no car to get out when I felt like it! People not unterstanding what I wanted when I went shopping either because of my accent, Scottish, or the terminology I used. Husband leaving for work at 6am and getting back after midnight because he was working two jobs. It's hard for most people. I don't think many people realise how hard it can be - in the beginning. Then, ofcourse, there's the unfamiliarty of places, how things are done and not forgetting no family or friends near by. I think it took me at least 2 years to feel settled. Getting back to work certainly helped! Now, over 42 years later, I'm so glad that I did stick it out for the first few years.
Sorry that this post is so long - could have been much longer! Hope this helps you understand why I think 7 months is too soon to make a decision. I also hope that you don't regret it after you get back to Ireland.

[scottishcelts]

Originally Posted by Aussiejock

Don't want to upset anyone and I am well aware that we are all different, but I do not think that 7 months is long enough to decide that you can't live in a place, especially when it is totally different to your home country. Emmigrating is very hard! I didn't want to come, refuse at the last minute the first time we were supposed to go. Then I felt guilty because it was what my OH wanted and so we came. I was miserable! Stuck at home with 3 boys under 4, no car to get out when I felt like it! People not unterstanding what I wanted when I went shopping either because of my accent, Scottish, or the terminology I used. Husband leaving for work at 6am and getting back after midnight because he was working two jobs. It's hard for most people. I don't think many people realise how hard it can be - in the beginning. Then, ofcourse, there's the unfamiliarty of places, how things are done and not forgetting no family or friends near by. I think it took me at least 2 years to feel settled. Getting back to work certainly helped! Now, over 42 years later, I'm so glad that I did stick it out for the first few years.
Sorry that this post is so long - could have been much longer! Hope this helps you understand why I think 7 months is too soon to make a decision. I also hope that you don't regret it after you get back to Ireland.

WOW aussiejock, boy oh boy you had it hard alright, that must have been so darned tough to get through those first 2 years, i don't know how you did it (well i do actually - you are Scottish hee hee!)

Our plan from the beginning was to stay for two years before making any judgements of our life in Australia, and we still mean to carry that through. We've now been here 3 months and though i am homesick (and not afraid to admit it) we hope to get a foot on that property ladder before we return (if we return). There's now way i'd be going home without the backup of the sale of a house.

We will see how things turn out but just now i suppose we are having lots of fun with the kids.

[Martinw]

Wow guys, I never really thought that it is that hard for English speaking people to adjust aswell. We are from South Africa(Afrikaans speaking) and I thought maybe it is only non-english apeaking people that really have to adjust. We know how how you guys felt and feel. The best advise is try to stick it out - it does get better, if it was not that good or is not that good. My wife has not worked in 3 years, after working for 15 in SA and she feels like she is not making a contribution, but I think she misses the interaction with people on an everyday basis more. She has been studying, and allthough she has a car as well, you can only go to the shops that often. But things are heaps better, we are enjoying our life now to the full and once she starts some form of work things will go really well. Yep I agree, stick it out. There must have been a reason why you left and came here. Take a bit longer to try to adjust and it will all be worth it. This is agreat country to be in this day and age. I would even say the best. Enjoy and Good luck

[Baby75]

Ahh I was wondering when it would change to a your going home to soon and stick it out


may be your right, Ill find out soon enough, ill even be brave enough and tell you so you can say I told you so lol (IF YOUR RIGHT)

but to me, my gut says no, there are may reasons why I want to go home !!


Im very lucky I can, I think ive given it a good go, I know people who were here only a month and have gone home and never returned either. some times you just know!!

it always depends on your reasons for coming in the first place, I guess and what type of person you are.

[Martinw]

Originally Posted by Baby75

Ahh I was wondering when it would change to a your going home to soon and stick it out


may be your right, Ill find out soon enough, ill even be brave enough and tell you so you can say I told you so lol (IF YOUR RIGHT)

but to me, my gut says no, there are may reasons why I want to go home !!


Im very lucky I can, I think ive given it a good go, I know people who were here only a month and have gone home and never returned either. some times you just know!!

it always depends on your reasons for coming in the first place, I guess and what type of person you are.

Hey there,

I am pretty sure no-one is taking a serious stab at you( I know I wasnt). I wish I had the luxury of being able to return to my birth country, but in my case that personally for me is not even an option. If you really feel it isnt the best place for you then dont let anyone try to convince you otherwise(if you were returning to South Africa my words would probably have included things people dont want to hear) but returning to UK is good enough for you and thats all that matters. Some of us have no choice and others have accepted and are enjoying life here(because we have no choice) so everyone does what he decides is best for himself.
All the best of luck and may everything go well or better it did here.

Cherio

[Halo]

Going back to SA is madness but there are many people who sit left of center.

1. 7 Months is not long enough
2. Pick another country (like Perth - Plenty of Dutchies there)
3. And if you have children, shame on you - Give them a future.

I wish you a safe journey.

[Aussiejock]

Baby75, I'm sorry if you assumed I was having a go at you - thought my first sentence covered that. There is no way I would ever say "I told you so" to anyone! My intention was to show that I had been thro' what you are experiencing and found light at the end of a very dark tunnel.
Martinw not many people realise that there is a Scots language, apart from Scottish Gaelic. Unfortunately, for a long time now, the language has been *******ised by English. Today most Scots, in everyday life, speak what is a mixture of Scots and English. I discovered when I arrived here that not only Australians but English people too did not understand a lot of words that I used.
I found that my colleagues and pupils had no problem understand my perfect English in the work situation but when I spoke to my own children, in their presence, they later asked me to translate!!