thanks guys for your help-i know it would be initially hard over there as i have noone to go over with- my father was saying there will be no jobs over there at this time of year! i dont no what to do-i dont want to leave all my family and friends buts its like its the only way my life will start moving again! for the last two christmas i have gone down to malaga with my mates for some sun and by the end of the week i am starting to feel normal again-it would be interesting to find someone on this who had been in the same situation-thanks again