Hola! Firstlly I think you should check out Almeria and see what you think, the climate is fab and as I said before there is outdoor living practically all year round, meaning that your children can benefit from outdoor sports , activities etc without being stuck inside during the winter months! My son goes to tennis and football at 5pm some days in the week and its still light & warm!
Children here can start school (Infants/ Infantil) at 3 years old if you so wish however school is not obligitory until they are 5. I suggest though that you start them at school as soon as possible so they make friends, integrate and also have fun whilst learning. Its more or less the same as the Uk but in Spanish. Children are incredible, they adapt and learn so quickly and will be speaking the language and understanding by the time your first 3 months are up. You will be the only one worrying as thats what you do as a parent!!! ......but there is no need to!! You need to visit, you need to check out the area, visit the schools etc etc. Write a list of Q´s and ask them! get stats from the school or check their websites out...thats what I did ! The education here is good and comprehensive and as long as you as a parent take interest and support your child with their school life and school work, your kiddies will reep the benefits! Children here are not made to grow up quickly like they do in the UK, peer pressure exists everywhere because thats what children are like, but it is so much less here!

You have to realise that you are in a fortunate situation with your children if your chose to move to Spain, age is on their side as it is on yours! You will have no problem making friends and meeting people, you have already made the effort to check info on forums and abate your concerns. Making friends is really down to you and making an effort and finding out ´whats on´, eg, yoga, gym, spanish lessons, kiddies afterschool activities there are loads of ways to meet people and even if you don´t speak the language you wil still meet people and get invited out etc. There are numerous ways here, this is Spain!

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