Hi dragonflyblu - thanks for your response.

Have you and your husband lived together abroad before? Are you nervous about raising your children so far away from your family? Do you plan to return back to your home country after a couple of years?

I don't know if you are American or not but I am, and like many Americans my family members have never even been out of the states, so I for them to come and visit me in the UK is not really that likely, or not likely to happen that often (its also expensive to fly). I would most likely have to spend all of my holidays visiting back home. Also, I am getting scared personally as this move would be a move forever. My boyfriend doesn't want to return to the states.

I love my boyfriend to death but I honestly wonder if it will work. That is terrible, right? I guess I am going to have to just take it one day at a time until something changes and we have to make a decision. No point making a decision now based on what may or may not be. I just get worried that I am perhaps just wasting time.

Anyways thanks for your comments.