We havent moved to the uk yet, but we plan to liveas expats for the next few years. My husband and i have 1 baby. our family are 24 hour flight away. my point is that you never know what will happen in the future. i would not worry about having kids getting married etc. until its actually on the cards. i think maybe both of you are over-thinking i if you have already had a 'virtual' marriage, family and divorce! just go with your instinct.