Originally Posted by cliveshep
Joppa - many thanks for your reply. I confess that this brought on considerable depression at first but then I decided that I might as well fly out and spend a few weeks with her now, and do that again after the divorce is final in January and I have the papers, as if I'm not working I have nothing to lose at present. OK - it'll knock a hole in my finances but some flghts are at give-away prices at present so it won't be a very big hole.
I'll get another £10k or so coming in by the end of January and in any event we'll be able to demonstrate not just 8 days together but maybe another 6 weeks in total and that ought to show seriousness of relationship and intentions.
If after that UKBA still don't play ball then I might just stay there and marry her there and if necessary tun my back on the UK for good although that would be last resort as it would mean giving my kids to my ex and they do not want that. Come to that they don't want to live in Thailand either but they are supportive of my love for this girl whom they chat to on Skype.
Would getting married there under Thai Law make it any easier to gain an entry clearance for a spouse do you think? I'm looking at all angles here as this is the girl for me and both of us remain committed to that decision.
Once again - thank you for taking time out to answer me.
Allow me to provide a completely different angle since you seem open to suggestion: Move to a different EU country. Belgium and the Netherlands allow people who have known each other for a year and have spent 40 calendar days together during that period to apply for a Cohabitation visa. The only thing that I could see being a problem is whether or not your divorce is final. There is no other catch.
Cohabiting - Services - Homepage - Foreign Affairs, Foreign Trade and Development Cooperation
You could also apply for a spousal visa whilst resident in any other EU country after being officially married since only the UK has a rule about language ability with regards to these types of visas. Shouldn't matter where you marry as though long as you get your marriage certificate certified at the UK embassy.
Probably useless information but I wish you best in sorting everything out!