My FM3 is being processed, but i need to leave the country indefinately (death of an immediate family member. already missed the memorial services for financial reasons, but now my way is being paid to go home, which i plan to do by bus).

I've been told by my employer that I may be fined, but I'm leaving for very personal reasons. There may be a way they can ask permission for me to leave, but that may only be the case of me returning, which I'm not going to do.

How can I leave the country for personal/family reasons without getting fined? I've crossed the border by bus before and no one even thought to check my tourist visa, so I'm wondering if I'm worrying over nothing. Aside from that, it's been more than three months since the paperwork was turned into the lawyers, and I was told that the entire process was only going to take 8 weeks. Put another way, they're the one's taking so long, why should I have to pay for their delays?

Any suggestions would be helpful.