Thanks for you reply Jabba. I am kind of getting used to the idea now. He is coming out to validate his visa with me in August. I have already booked his tickets for Christmas (£1600 eek). I have bought him a laptop with webcam.... So at least I am being pro active.

I tried the Aussie babes scenario but alas no joy. But it is good to know there are a few of us out there in the same position.