Hey Hun
I am going ALONE initially then my husband and two youngest are joining me in time for xmas, my 16yr old son is also agreeing to come under sufferance for one year and I am leaving my 20yr old daughter(who says I am abandoning her!!) and my 22yr old son here. I know I will struggle but they are grown and would leave me for love or work and anyway thats what parenting is all about you have to let them go having said that I don't know whether I would leave the 17yr old I would use blackmail and the thought of australian babes to get him there---worked for me lol
Good Luck