Hey thanks alot for the reply. we are staying in sever do vouga a very small town with no americans.its 30 minutes or soo from aveiro. Central portugal. where are u ??And yes im having a very hard time deciding on what i should do. I have been here 3 months and yes thats not long enough to even come close to ajusting. My children will have no problems ajusting to the language barrier once i get them in school. But u see we have struggled money wise since i have gotton here. my husband makes a mear 150 a week and thats off the books. i am missing the perks and help u recieve from the us goverment and i dont know if i can do this. Such a strain on my marriage !And the reason why i am here is because my husband got sent here after spending 30 years in us for some minor charges well, marijuanna that he had gotton in trouble 7 years ago. he never became a citizen of us and now im paying the price of having to leave my country to be a family. i dont wanna sound selfish but what am i to do. follow my heart or stay here and try and make it ? i dont see how we can though. let me go any more questions please let me know.. THANKS BUNCHES.. GINGER