Thanks everyone for all the replies.for now i'm going to try speaking to him again tomorrow, and explain why i cant stay here in spain. I think he knows this already, but he also knows there is no way i could leave my daughter here, but then by wanting her to be with me is doing to him what i dont want him to do to me if you see what i mean. I dont want to take her away from him, he is her dad and has done nothing wrong, he loves her and she loves him, but i havent even got any money to see a solicitor so the only option available is for us to come to an amicable agreement, so please wish me luck, it feels like the end of the world at the moment but i guess it would feel like that wherever i was, but its hard being here with no family or friends to turn to, i just need to get over this problem, and at the moment its just so raw for both of us.
thanks.