Originally Posted by Matou

Hello all,
here is my little contribution...

- As to "polite" words to be used instead of merde:
I suggest "flute" and "zut" or "crotte", the last one being less posh that the others.

- As to table manners:
to respect one's national manners is acceptable, French do percfectly know that their ones are quite complicated (when respected correctly) and will forgive a foreigner's "faux pas". If you want to make a try with the local good manners, for instance during a special occasion when etiquette is less relaxed, the clue is to keep your eyes open and do the same as the hostess (i.e. look at what fork she uses, etc...).

- As to attitudes that are sometimes perceived rude by the French:
Try to avoid to ask too personal questions if you are not reasonably familiar with the person, also try to avoid subjects like money and religion unless the subject is already "sur la table" (discussed) and you feel like participating to a typical French "artistically controversial" hot discussion (someting generally appreciated by the French). Lastly, try to avoid to look too friendly if you don't feel friendly, the usual "I am your friend" face is often considered as hypocrital (you could also be considerred loony or "marking a special intrest to the person" if not of the same gender...)

Cheers