Can I present my situation to everybody and maybe get some feedback-the story goes something like this: I am 60 years old, retired and living in a less than desirable relationship which has staggered on for 10 years. This has been my 2nd go at trying to maintain a lasting, loving relationship and unfortunately it ain't gonna work. However, bioth totalled some 30 years and produced two very nice grown up kids. Three years ago when visiting LOS I met(virtually accidentally) my Thai lady friend. Things progressed to the point that I have been back 3 times for a total period of 6 months. Why did I do this-because I knew there was little hope back here. Anyway, I helped her get a small house in her home(Isaan) village and we have spent a lot of time together there on my OS trips. So, I know a bit about the Thai way of life, village living, potential probs with finances, relatives and all the rest. Unlike some of the farang/Thai relationships I see on the net we do have a very nice thing going. At the very least, it is nice having someone who actually seems to love me, want me and has very nice habits. Each time on returning "home" I have waited to see if there were any changes-nope. So, even though life is comfortable here, it isn't a life and I want something else for the rest of my life. I fluctuate between certainty of living virtually in LOS despite the work of settlement(property) and the actual move and the fear of waking up if I do go and thinking that I have made a big mistake. However, nothing ventured... So, has anybody faced the same dilemna of uncertainty and can help? I have reasonable to good retirement finance and could get a bigger better house in the town close to the village(too small to live permanently but a good weekender close to family)