hello,

i'm in a terrible state. last year i met my aussie boyfriend, david, on the gold coast, qld. we fell hard for each other and after having to leave for visa reasons, he joined me 5 months later in canada.

we tried to live normally to see how things would go and we know we want to get married and have a family.

the problem is where to live. i want to live close to my family and so does he. i was willing to compromise and suggested splitting our time between countries for at least the first ten years of our marriage (so we could experience those milestones with our loved ones) but david was so afraid of the unknowns - can we afford it? what about moving children? etc...

so we have split for now but i know he is the one. he is still on his way home at the moment and i am waiting to contact him when his jetlag is over.

am i being far fetched? could we live in canada for 4-6 years and then jump to australia for 4-6 years? we have no problems with each country as we love them both... and our families are both so supportive even though it seems like a really hard thing to put ourselves through?

any advice would really be helpful. seems like i've thought it through a million times and its so hard to give up the closeness with the family i never thought i'd be so far from for good.

thanks, melissa