Yes, you can buy a home and land in Malaysia. :: MM2H :: Malaysia My Second Home has information about this - ex-pats must spend at least 250,000 rm for a home (300,000 if on Sarawak) - though it's possible to find something for less with an agent's help (for instance, the owner could buy a house full of furniture and include that in the purchase price to bring the total up to the minimum).

Yes, you can bring in personal effects. If you go under the Malaysia My Second Home promotion, there should be no duties on either personal effects or a vehicle. If you don't do the MM2H, I believe that you may be subject to duty.

Yes, English is very widely spoken and you can get by very well without knowing a word of Bahasa - though locals do appreciate it if you can at least say a few words. In areas like KL, you'll probably hear more English being spoken than any other language. There are also several English-language newspapers that can be found everywhere, as well as English book stores, etc. Many of Malaysia's minorities don't even speak Bahasa - many of the Indians and Chinese speak only their own language and English.

Sure, you might find your significant other in Malaysia. Keep in mind, though, that if he/she happens to be Muslim, then you would need to convert if you were to marry. Those rules don't apply for any other of Malaysia's many religions. I've seen many inter-racial couples in Malaysia.

Malaysia is roughly 60% Islamic and 40% everything else. That means that items such as beer, wine, pork, etc. are available in any place where Chinese or Indians or the indigenous people live - which is basically throughout the country. You'll find no shortage of places selling these items in the major cities, such as Georgetown, KL, Ipoh, etc. , but less so if you settle in the far north (around Terreganu or Kota Bahru), which tend to be more conservative than the rest of the country). Most grocery stores will have a non-halal section selling all sorts of products that would be forbidden to Muslims. Additionally, Chinese restaurants almost all sell alcohol and pork products. As far as sex goes, you shouldn't have any problems as long as you're mindful of the local culture - no public displays of affection (hand-holding is fine). Rarely, I've heard of hotels wanting to see a marriage license before renting to a couple - but that's extremely rare. In traveling for many months in Malaysia with my husband, I was never asked to show proof of marriage - but there was something in the paper just a couple of months ago about a couple who was not married - Georgetown, I think? - who were reprimanded by the police. It's really more of an issue if the couple is Islamic - if you're obviously a tourist or a non-Malaysian, it shouldn't be a problem.

Sorry, I don't know the answer to your last question. The Malaysian government makes it very easy for foreigners to live long-term in the country. They are not nearly as accommodating when it comes to employment or having a business. I would expect that there would be a great deal of red tape involved.